Ok i asked this girl out awhile ago she said no. But we contineud to flirt alot and stuff. a few nights ago she told me her little sexual fantasies and fetishes. Lets just say she like "painfuL" sex. She likes to be dominated lol. She told me what she likes exactly and crap. And she said stuff like "only if i had a guy who would do that thing". Now is it me, or does she want me to do that to her, without asking me to.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
really kinky chick freaking me out
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Why don't you ask her and find out? None of us are mindreaders, though I'd say the odds aren't good considering she rejected you once before... If she's freaking you out so badly, why are you still pursuing her?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Mojo604
Senior Don Juan
She obviously wants you to **** her brains out hard. Why tha **** would she say those things? She rejected you because she probably thiks you want a relashionship- and she doesnt want that. She just wants the rough sex.
its true i told her i wanted a relationship, but ill settle for ****ing her, rofl.Originally posted by Mojo604
She obviously wants you to **** her brains out hard. Why tha **** would she say those things? She rejected you because she probably thiks you want a relashionship- and she doesnt want that. She just wants the rough sex.
Originally posted by Mojo604
Im not DJ, or an expert, so those of you who are can correct me on this when I say...
MISTAKE
yeah it was a mistake, but its far in the past now. So its not much of a issue anymore as i dont really say i want a relationship with her anymore.
thefonz
Master Don Juan
BIG mistake......don't be a chump and fall for the *****, thats one of the most painful things a man can do to himself......try to steer back into that i just want freaky sex mode, watch pornos by nacho vidal, that guy knows how to treat a lady
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Perhaps she wants a master to be a slave to. She might be really deep into that...
I wouldn't advise it. The "rough stuff" should only be something you get into with someone you know and trust. For all you know this woman might have been abused or raped in the past and holds all men responsible. There are some women who will entrap men into doing something that they can later use to accuse them of hurting them to get attention or just feel like a victim.
Run away as fast as you can...
Run away as fast as you can...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Originally posted by Wyldfire
psst...I'm actually a "chick"...but you can call me "dude" if you wanna.
were both in highschool, shes straight A student and everything so its wierd. I can imagine going. Yes officer, im 18, shes 16, she has bruisers on her, but she told me to do it. Also that wasnt really rape she told me to fake it. haha god.
Dapper Swindler
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On second thought, since she's only 16, this may be something she fantasizes about as teenage girls tend to fantasize, but not something she actually wants to do.
i'm not into sadomaso, but if i were, i would never do it with a younger girl (i'd want a girl over 25, at least, better if she's 30-35). plus, i could never do that sort of thing with a woman i personally know... it'd be strange...
PLUS, when a 16 year old girl fantasizes about sadomaso, it's just that. a fantasy. i don't suggest that you should propose it to her, unless you can make it appear as a joke... meaning that you shouldn't be the one to bring up the topic... if you are talkin' about that, it's ok to crack something on the line of:
"if u wanna try, i could teach you..." with a light smirk on your face, so that she's not capable of gettin' if u r jokin' or not
otherwise, shut the hell up or the whole school will have an image of you with a pair of bare-butt leather pants with something in latex in your hands... not too good for your reputation, man
if by hard stuff u just mean anal sex, that's ok... i'm ANALizing my 16 yr old girlfriend almost every day
PLUS, when a 16 year old girl fantasizes about sadomaso, it's just that. a fantasy. i don't suggest that you should propose it to her, unless you can make it appear as a joke... meaning that you shouldn't be the one to bring up the topic... if you are talkin' about that, it's ok to crack something on the line of:
"if u wanna try, i could teach you..." with a light smirk on your face, so that she's not capable of gettin' if u r jokin' or not
otherwise, shut the hell up or the whole school will have an image of you with a pair of bare-butt leather pants with something in latex in your hands... not too good for your reputation, man
if by hard stuff u just mean anal sex, that's ok... i'm ANALizing my 16 yr old girlfriend almost every day