“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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pharoh

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Hey guys, I have a serious problem here. During my high school years in another country, I was branded racist names because I was the only race in my school. I suffered from some illnesses, and had to take steroids and such, causing my whole body to inflame, causing me to look like a blimp. I was massacred with respect to my outer appearance by girls with names that I still remember like “big nose $******”, and I hated going out until it was night time. Anyway, the point I’m making is that I left from there with the self confidence of shyt.

Now, after coming back to the states and finishing my high school, I have now entered college. My high school years in the states weren’t bad at all, but I was and still am so quiet and shy because of my very low self-confidence and my fear of being rejected. I’m in my second year of college right now. The only thing that is different with me now is that I am considered to be very attractive by girls. Numerous times girls have said stuff like, “Wow,” or “Damn, he is too fine” when I have passed by. Girls that I would consider supermodels who I think are not even in my league are attracted to me. However, when I look in one mirror, I’m like, “how the fuk can a girl find this attractive?”, then in another, I’m like, “damn, your on fine a$$ mofo.” I’m way to insecure. For instance, when I look around, I never turn my head completely and look at a girl because I think my side looking is very nasty (I look like I'm retarded).

Just to give you an idea of my appearance, I am 5’6, 140 pounds (small guy lol), moustache, small gotti, hair slicked back, and look like a Puerto Rican gangsta without even trying. However, the problem here is that I am the SAME person. I don’t have the personality to back up my image. Case in point. When I go to the computer lab, some hot girls sit near me, and start doing stuff to get my attention. What do I do? I immediately close everything and leave the scene because I get a dry mouth and choke. When I walk around campus, guys look at me like I’m some Don Juan, but what do I do? I am embarrassed and shy they are looking and don’t want to look arrogant so I look down. I get all weird when I walk around because (this might sound stupid) I feel too damn fine. When girls make eye contact with me, I look at them and then look away knowing full well they wanna get it on.

This one girl was "dancing" on the right side of me in the computer lab once trying to get my attention, and then said I had the biggest ego she had ever seen!!! Wow, that can not be farther from the truth. Some guys treat me like shyt because of my appearance like I have this ego. My appearance looks so intimidating but inside I'm a little kid wanting to just fit in. I am thinking maybe I should just dress a little nerdier so that guys and girls don't look at me as much. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
 

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Learn to talk to people.

I think what happens is that people mistake your shyness for being standoffish and conceited. It's happened before. And it may actually have some truth to it, since you think you're so "fine".

When you get to know people, it helps disarm their presuppositions about you. If you're good at talking to people and are more outgoing, they'll think "wow, he's a great guy." It'll also help you further in life. College is all about learning to network and meeting new people.

But in all honesty, I wouldn't get bent out of shape because a few people make the wrong assumptions about you. Be friendly to everyone, but remember some people are just d!cks and they're gonna think what they want even if it's not true. So those people....well, f'k em. ;)
 

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Wait, wait , wait..

Your telling me that you are 5 '6', 140 pounds, with a moustache and sliked back hair..and that guys are intimidated by you and that girls want you??? Are you fcuking kidding me? Where do you live...Middle Earth??? This has to be a joke, it has to be.
 

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Re: Wait, wait , wait..

Originally posted by Jay Fiedler
Your telling me that you are 5 '6', 140 pounds, with a moustache and sliked back hair..and that guys are intimidated by you and that girls want you??? Are you fcuking kidding me? Where do you live...Middle Earth??? This has to be a joke, it has to be.
I was waiting for an immature comment like this, but I know where your coming from. I don't mean intimidating in the way that you seem to be applying, but rather that guys looks at me in an odd way like I don' t belong there age wise, look wise, etc. For instance, people have always told me I look like I'm around 25 or so and other things comparable to what I've mentioned. Sorry if I gave anyone a distorted view on what I meant.
 

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Re: Re: Wait, wait , wait..

Originally posted by pharoh
I was waiting for an immature comment like this, but I know where your coming from. I don't mean intimidating in the way that you seem to be applying, but rather that guys looks at me in an odd way like I don' t belong there age wise, look wise, etc. For instance, people have always told me I look like I'm around 25 or so and other things comparable to what I've mentioned. Sorry if I gave anyone a distorted view on what I meant.
In all seriousness, be careful that you're not putting yourself on a "too good for them" pedestal because you're trying to compensate for your lack of social skill. That's a real good place to take a hard fall from.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Re: Re: Re: Wait, wait , wait..

Originally posted by squirrels
In all seriousness, be careful that you're not putting yourself on a "too good for them" pedestal because you're trying to compensate for your lack of social skill. That's a real good place to take a hard fall from.
Thanks for the advice. I know what your saying, but I can't even approach average girls or the like, so I don't think I'm putting myself in a pedestal. I guess I need to develop my social skills so that communication between me and others can flow more naturally.
 
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why do you have to look like a 'ganster Puerto Rican' - can't you just look 'Puerto Rican' :)

Your high school experienced could have scarred your self image severely - and how you think of yourself. This is why when you look in the mirror you cannot recognize the person in the mirror with the one that you perceive yourself to be! A little psychoanalysis there, but I think it applies. This self-image and lack of confiidence spills over to the lack of confidence in the social arena and how you communicate with people. You went from a beast to a beauty and from chatisement to positive recognition.

Post a picture and we'll see if it is your glamorous looks that causes so much commotion!
 

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I concur

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
This self-image and lack of confiidence spills over to the lack of confidence in the social arena and how you communicate with people. You went from a beast to a beauty and from chatisement to positive recognition.
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I wanted to add that this is a drastic transformation in a short span of time and that maybe your mind of how you perceived your self in high school has not caught uo to the reality of how you look today!
 

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