"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Realistic Seduction Target?

MackJr

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There's a woman I'd like to seduce, she's been a friend for about 10 years and up till now I never really considered her for dating. I only talk to her about once every 4-6 months, so it's not like I'm part of her "nice guy" harem. She has no harem.

This woman is probably an HB8 without makeup. She doesn't wear makeup, though she does groom herself, so that's not a problem. She's highly intelligent, we met in college, and very analytical. Her personality type is INTP, which is sort of rare for women.

The major thing is she has no experience. I know for a fact that she's never dated, nor consequently had sex. When I initially met her, she was very shy, and I was her only friend. When I moved away, she still only tended to have one friend at a time. In the last few years, I've seen evidence that she's come out of her shell and become more social. She does have emotions, though like male INTPs, she's not that emotional, and she has a keen sense of humor.

When I say she's analytical, I'll give an example. She's a biologist, and we were in a pet store. I started looking at some puppies wrestling with each other, and she commented that they were competing to be the alpha and establish dominance. Your typical woman would say, "OH, how cute!!!"

I wonder if a woman like this is a realistic target. I like her because she's really nice, and doesn't have much of a temper. She's one of the few women on my very short "I'd marry her" list.

Also, if the DJ theory is correct, I'd have to be more stoic than her, and I'm an ENTP, which is a naturally more emotional type. It's funny that I did an experiment once where I pretended to be hypermacho, and she laughed and played along. She sort of responded to it, so it's possible that DJ technique might work.

Any thoughts?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Walden

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What do you want us to say. We've never met you and we've never met the woman. You don't need a green light from us here , just go do it!
 

Kraken

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So she's a friend that you talk to twice a year. Yet you seem to have a complete analysis of her inner psyche memorized.

Anyway, whether she's personality type INTP, PPCF, or IFNWKSKDFIWEJFWEWFEWKFWSF, she's still a 'realistic target' like any other woman, unless you think you're too deep in the friend zone with her from talking to her once every 6 months:rolleyes:
 

California Love

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If u dated this woman, it would be best as a serious relationship since she seems like an intellectual. If she's inexperienced, you have to be careful...fewer games and playing hard to get. She's not one that's gonna get away easily. Open her up and she'll be an excellent conversationist.


It seems as if u caught a special fish, so don't let this one go without a fight. The two of you have also been acquainted for quite a while, so you dont wanna mess the relationship up. From how you describe her, she seems more like the type you would want to marry than the quick bang type.

LTR!! :)
 
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