John 467--
I hear ya, bud. Read my also few posts and you’ll see how things have evolved between the Girl and I. Our relationship IS VERY sexual; I give her a lot of affection when we're together, back off a little bit, she goes nuts, we use many "proprs" during sex, etc., go in for more, let her reciprocate, you get the picture.
I've pulled back a bit the last week and she's pushing to get together--hence, her IL is still pretty high, >90%.
Also, I've know her for more than a year before I started dating her so it wasn't a "cold approach" or anything. She has THE QUALITIES for an LTR I look for, but I won't commit to be exclusive with her after a couple of requests by her. I think making a choice about the 3-month mark with the chick is the earliest.
I disagree with your view on lack of challenge or lack of mystery working in your favor. You need to find the balance with this.
Keep in mind MOST guys go WAY too fast when they're with a hot chick. Sure, women like attention, BUT, too much too soon and their IL drops--guaranteed.
My MO: Hold back a little, use c&f, bust her, make yourself scarce between dates, no chit-chat phone calls (that is SO AFC), save the communication and interaction for when you see her face-to-face, pull back a little, go back in harder, keep advancing.
Remember, most hot chicks have seen guys make the same mistakes over and over. Men are generally predictable. If you want to catch, fvck, and hang onto a HOT CHICK, then you need to be different. You also need her to validate herself to you by asking questions, showing LOTS of confidence, etc.
Thanks for the words my man--well taken!
