I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Drdeee said:You can't really really trust anyone, and you can't really have real friends. You can just have good people around and bad people around - those in turn shape shift into friends, near, far, and anything in between.
Pick a good person, test them, and be to them their best friend.
Watch out for people who:
1) ask you to lend them money
2) use your cologne when at your place
3) are members of the underworld
4) have problems with the law
5) do hard drugs other than marijuana
6) .........someone could complete this list
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
These are called friends of convenience. They're only around if they want or need something and are the sweetest people in the world until they get what they were after. Kind of like AFCs.Drdeee said:1) ask you to lend them money
I guess you're obsessive over your cologne?2) use your cologne when at your place
Vampires aren't real. :rock:3) are members of the underworld
Sounds to me like you desert your friends at the first sign of trouble. See point #1. You are a friend of convenience, you're only around when you need something. :rock:4) have problems with the law
Yup nailed it mate and I only have 1 friend like this used to have 3 but the other two got whipped into shape by their wifes.Gaucho said:I'll tell you what real friends ARE (let's be positive here rather than negative):
1) They say a true friend is someone you can not speak to for long periods and when you hang out or talk again, it is like as free and easy to talk as normal with no grudges held.
2) Someone who sticks by you when YOU need it. If you are sick, they will come around to watch a movie with you. If you break up with your girlfriend, they will go out with you for company and to take your mind away.
These are my main two rules with friends. If they don't stick by this, fukc em, drop them like a sack of sh*t!!!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.