"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Reading the result of the breakup

Desdinova

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Every time I break up with a woman, there seems to be one of two results:

1) She gets pissed off, tries to eliminate you from her life, and moves on

2) She fights to keep contact with you, even if you don't want it anymore with her

I've been thinking about these two main results and what they indicate about the relationship you had with her. Is situation #1 the result of her trying to use you and not getting her own way? Is situation #2 the result of a woman who genuinely cares and perhaps even secretly feels in love with you?

Thoughts?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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a woman who genuinely cares and perhaps even secretly feels in love with you?


That's the perfect way to describe an ex. If it's true, then you did everything correctly. Accumulate exes like that over your lifetime, and it will be good for your karma.
 
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Dear Des,
Why does this matter?
 
Rollo Tomassi

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Don't discourage DES' analysis, it's good introspection and adds to men's collective understanding.

I've stated before that breaking up with a girl is the highest form of DHV for a guy when he's the one initiating it. It's a harsh confirmation for a woman when a guy puts himself out of reach of a woman.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's the same with men.

Actually, it's #2, or the guy is apathetic or even relieved she dumped him so he didnt have to do the dirty work.
 
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