Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I cleared out my ebox so I couldn't reply back to you...Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
You should honestly dye that hair and your brows as fast as possible... I don't care what anyone says but orangeredish hair is not pretty...
Go dye it, use some wax/stylingpaste and make it look better, let it grow some (4-5 centimtres) then go back to a hairdresser (go to a GOOD ONE, a hip one with good stylists) and get it fixed up with a good and fitting style (Which supports your good facial features and make you look more masculine). Upgrade your gear too, get some good clothes. DO this AFTER you dye your hair (This is VERY important)... When going shopping for clothes, make sure to talk with the people working there and get help finding your colours (earth colours, summer colours, winter colours, what fits you!!!).
I would also suggest working out because it will make you feel ALOT better _and_ it will remove some of your facialfat (no you are not fat but your face is very round due to fatensambles in your chins...) Working out will remove the fat that's in your chins and bring back your more noticable features like chins, cheekbones etc.
Also do the DJ bootcamp!!
If I were you I'd do the hairthingy etc and get some gear and start working on your confidence then start lesson 1 of the bootcamp...