Ok, heres the story. I met this girl a few weeks ago through a friend. We really liked eachother from the beginnign and she was giving me major signs. B4 the night was over she asked for my number and i got hers as well. The next day she even drove over her other "friend's" house, but it was really just to see me. Anyways, the night after that, which was a monday, i called her up and asked her if she would like to hang out when she had soem free time. Right away she asked what i was doing that upcoming weekend. So we made plans for that sunday. A few days pass, and i try calling her on friday to see how she was. She nvr answered. Turns out she nvr answered or returned my phone calls. About 4 in total over three days. So a week goes by and i see her the following weekend. SHe was pretty nice to me and tried to flirt a lil, but i was kinda cold to her, which stopped her a lil. Anyways, its about 3 weeks later and i havent talked to her and i really wanna see where this thing will/could go. What should i do? call her to see whats up or what? ANd when i speak to her, what should i talk about? SHould i mention her flaking?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
read this!
- Thread starter gymshorts
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Michele l'Arcangelo
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 5, 2005
- Messages
- 1,460
- Reaction score
- 22
since you've called her a few times... i'll give you the right to call again and leave a message...
make it a nice message and right to the point... don't say some stupid **** as if you've been dating her for a months.
i'd do something like "hey kid... its blah blah... i thought id just call once more to see if you'd want to get together to do <something>... call me back... loveto hear from ya. bye"
or something like that.
if she doesnt call back... move on... she has.
if she answers... make sure you weren't expecting an answering machine... and know what your plan is... short and sweet then bye.
^^^same thing if she calls you back
make it a nice message and right to the point... don't say some stupid **** as if you've been dating her for a months.
i'd do something like "hey kid... its blah blah... i thought id just call once more to see if you'd want to get together to do <something>... call me back... loveto hear from ya. bye"
or something like that.
if she doesnt call back... move on... she has.
if she answers... make sure you weren't expecting an answering machine... and know what your plan is... short and sweet then bye.
^^^same thing if she calls you back
Capt.Jack Sparrow
Master Don Juan
Honestly... I see this thing going nowhere if its been a few weeks since you last talked to her, the flings over.
Atleast for her
Move on.
But hey feel free to be my guest if you want to prove me wrong.
Atleast for her
Move on.
But hey feel free to be my guest if you want to prove me wrong.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Michele l'Arcangelo
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 5, 2005
- Messages
- 1,460
- Reaction score
- 22
doesnt hurt to call, you wont see her ever again to feel "embarassment" of rejection or you might even get a chance again... but if you havent made a move since i gave you a reply... thats been even longer...
better make a move
better make a move