Read This!! Excellent Exercise!!!!

[slipstreamer83]

Hey guys,

Last night I went out, and I did an exercise that has worked wonders for me. I wasn´t planning to do it, it just came unexpectedly to my head.

You have to go out at night because you have to be in the REAL context to make this exercise. Your aim is not approacing any girl, though.

What you have to do is to watch an HB and think to yourself: "What feelings would I want to communicate to this girl if I wanted to approach her?"

You will figure out by yourself which is the way that you would like to approach girls. While doing this, forget the DJ Bible. Forget the dating gurus, and forget Slipstreamer.

As an example, I will tell you what I figured out for me :

I want to communicate calmness and positive energy, I want to use strong eye contact, a slight smile, voice inflexion, willing to go, good posture (body language) and C&F.

All these are in importance order. The first one (calmness) is the most important one, while C&F is the one that will have less importance, but I will use it if I see the opportunity.

I have also decided that I will use it with everyone; hot babes, ugly girls, children, men, women, elder people... just because it makes me feel more natural. I will apply all day long, everywhere.

This is what I feel most comfortable with. Feel free to change the classification you will use, or don´t use one if you think it´s going to be a dare for you!! (classification is, in my case, the most important factor and the least important factor).

So this was my example. Use it as a guideline if you want, but I recommend you to figure out one by yourself just like I did.

If you can´t figure it all out in one night, continue the exercise another day until you think you have found out "your system". Note that you may also change "your system" as you have experiences, something can get more or less importance depending on your experience. You may also include new factors and delete others.

Ok, so what has happened today for me?

I have been out almost all day long. And it has been sooooooooooo easy for me to talk with 2 girls and make them laugh. This was very spontaneous, I didn´t have to think what I had to say. I did not go for the phone number, but what I did alone was UNTHINKABLE for me before!! I will then continue developing "my system" in order to make it stronger, and maybe in 1 week, or in 1 month, or in 4 months (whatever) I will get FINALLY to my aim.

And remember; THIS EXERCISE IS ABSOLUTELY MEANINGLESS IF YOU DON´T GO OUT AND PRACTICE!!!

Hope this exercise helps you. Please, feel free to make comments on it or post here your progression.

 

[Dirtheart]

I've actually been trying this sort of thing for a while now. Before I leave the house in a morning, I remind myself to behave a certain way and to think about my actions before committing to them. It is working well. I figure the main point is you have to bring your thoughts to the present, as opposed to letting your mind wander.

However, one problem I do have is that I'm often think too much about how I want to behave (maintaining eye contact, posture, composure etc) I totally block out what people are talking to me about. What's more, I don't think it's a good thing to be so self-aware. Right? Perhaps it comes together naturally with practice.

 

[slipstreamer83]

Maybe you are actually forcing yourself to do certain things that are not very comfortable for you at the moment. That´s maybe why you block. You should set a number of factors that are comfortable for you. As I said, it may change from one day to another.

It doesn´t matter if you applied every factor every time you approach a girl. Stick with the general picture. If it was good, then you did well, regardless of the result.

 

[slipstreamer83]

So, did anyone try, apart from Dirtheart? How was it for you???

 

[DJUofS]

I disagree with this exercise. I am not saying it doesn't work, but my results are different from yours. You see, I use to wake up every morning thinking to myself "today is the day I will say 'HI!' to HB9 in school" and "today I will be witty and funny" and so on. Regardless of how I wanted to be, I couldn't...

The reason you ask? You guys are thinking to far in advance and trying to hard. Atleast this was the case for me. For instance; tell a person to be funny... right on the spot. How often will that person be able to crack you up? Not often... because they will be trying to do so!

Recently, I have been waking up and not thinking about anything except my morning cup of coffee and my initial wake up laugh (read the DJ Bible, this really does put you in a good mood!). I don't plan anything out, I simply play everything by year. Anymore I am what I use to want to be!

So my suggestion would be this: Instead of thinking about what you want to be, take actions! If you want to talk to some hot chick at school, do it. Who cares if you get shot down? Instead of saying to yourself "I am going to use c&f on this one" just walk up and say "Hi" and play it by year. In my experiences, this way works much better.

 

[slipstreamer83]

No DJ, what you did was different. You were actually forcing yourself to do something, as if getting a girl was an obligation!! I have done what you say, and I know it doesn´t work.

Instead, in the appropriate context, watch a girl and ask yourself: what feelings do I want to communicate her and how to do it?

You will come up with various factors. Put some sort of order with them, and that´s it.

The upshot of the exercise is to make you feel well inside, so that when you have to walk up to a girl you don´t have to think about what you have to do.

 

[Mister X]

In my humbest opinion, the ess you think of and concentrate on things, the easier you feel. If I have been doing that, I woud surey anticipate some sort of reaction of the chick and woud feel frustrated if it woud not be revealed by her in this or another way. Most of my russian colleagues make an emphasis on practice only, that abolishes each and every thought of sophisticated methods like the offered one.

I did never imply to offend the author.

Granto respecto Mister X

 

[slipstreamer83]

Privet Mister X, the aim of this exercise is to make you feel comfortable when you have to approach a girl, it makes you feel beforehand that it is going to be all positive. If it didn´t finish well you won´t mind (really), at least from my experience.

But I didn´t name something that seemed ovbious to me. You have to do this exercise once or twice , or until you come up with your personal "system". Once you have it, you don´t have to do this exercise anymore. You just have to remember the key points of your system to put you in the right mood before you go out, for example. So you just do the exercise at the beggining.

Now I don´t think about anything when approaching. I just feel positive.