"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ok the other day me and my buddy were at a club. There were a few good looking women around, mostly in there little groups with there friends.

I am the kind of guy that will cold approach. Doesn't mean it always works out, but I always try to cold approach. So I talked to a couple of girls, nothing really spectacular and the whole time I was talking I noticed my buddy was sitting over there on his stool not saying a word.

He was just nursing his beer minding his own business. So I asked him why he wasn't talking to any girls.

He told me that it is "better to remain silent and thought a fool, then to open it and remove all doubt."

What do you think of this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Teflon_Mcgee

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B-Real said:
Ok the other day me and my buddy were at a club. There were a few good looking women around, mostly in there little groups with there friends.

I am the kind of guy that will cold approach. Doesn't mean it always works out, but I always try to cold approach. So I talked to a couple of girls, nothing really spectacular and the whole time I was talking I noticed my buddy was sitting over there on his stool not saying a word.

He was just nursing his beer minding his own business. So I asked him why he wasn't talking to any girls.

He told me that it is "better to remain silent and thought a fool, then to open it and remove all doubt."

What do you think of this?

That's a famous quote (Hemmingway or Twain maybey?)
Anyway, it's completley ridiculous to apply it to the pick-up scene.
 

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Teflon_Mcgee said:
That's a famous quote (Hemmingway or Twain maybey?)
Anyway, it's completley ridiculous to apply it to the pick-up scene.
Unless everything you say makes you sound like a fool.
 

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Dongfu said:
Unless everything you say makes you sound like a fool.
The only way you are going to forge yourself into something other than a fool in a social arena, is by getting out and playing the field. That quote sounds like a pathetic excuse covered in chocolate.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Only a fool would use a quote like that to make it seem like he isn't a fool.

I got a better quote for your friend:

"Better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all, for we learn best from our mistakes."
 

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Danger said:
He's using that quote as a buffer to avoid feeling rejected.
:up:

Plus he was using the quote out of context.
 

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Here's a good response quote to that quote.

You miss 100% of the shots you dont take.
wayne gretsky :rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
 
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