"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I call a girl for the first time , talk about 5 minutes, good conversation. Her girlfriend comes by and I say I have to go. She says she will call back after getting ready for whatever shes doing that evening? She sounds interested, and sounds adamant about calling back . From our frist meeting I know she is interested in me. So the question for the wise is ............

If she doesn't call back should I initiate ? If so when? What are good responses , or questions , or conversation to start with after this bump in the road first phone call? Is she testing me to see if I will give up right away. Intersting {HOT} girl ,would not like this to be a wrench in my DJ works.

Thanks in advance for the help ...........

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If she doesn't call you call back in a few days. If she is still flakey say "your loss" and hang up.
 

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If she said she will call you back - she will.

If she doesn't she just doesn't like you. The more you push the issue the more you will look weak to her.

You made the call and had a nice chat so just let her get back to you. In the mean time go meet other women and have - she'll be intouch at some point.
 

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Good point don't want to appear weak. Thanks for your help.

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I hate getting into the position of having to "wait" for the girl to make the move. When she says something like that I just shoot back with "actually, I'm about to start doing _, but I'll give you a call later". Simple, and you keep the ball in your court.

If she's like "gottagobye" and doesn't leave you any time to use the above line, then whatever, it's up to her. Agree with Flexion.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Good reply , Thanks for the response, wish I would have said that and kept the ball in my court like you said. Oh well live and learn.

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calling back may make you look weak but who cares.

It's all about you, so if she says I'll call you back, wait a week and then call her yourself. If she doesn't want to go out with you she thinks your weak (but since she wasn't going to go out with you anyway, you didn't loose anything). If she does want to go out with you but forgot your number or lost her cell phone, or is too selfconscience to ever initiate a call to a boy she just met, than you could be doing the horizontal mambo that night.

Here is my plan. When you call her back apologize for not calling her back sooner. "Sorry it took me so long to get back to you, the orphanage I help out got a hole in the roof. " This way it seems like you have a lot going on, and that your not sitting at home waiting for a call from some girl you spoke with for 20 min. at a bar two weeks ago.

Your going to piss off a few girls along the way, some are going to think your weak, but if you want to call this girl back... call her. Stop worring about what some girl is going to think about you.
 

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Very good thoughts on this situation , You are also right in the sense I have nothing to lose. Thanks for your time.......

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Nope, nothing to lose... except for your selfrespect of course :)
 
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