"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I call a girl for the first time , talk about 5 minutes, good conversation. Her girlfriend comes by and I say I have to go. She says she will call back after getting ready for whatever shes doing that evening? She sounds interested, and sounds adamant about calling back . From our frist meeting I know she is interested in me. So the question for the wise is ............

If she doesn't call back should I initiate ? If so when? What are good responses , or questions , or conversation to start with after this bump in the road first phone call? Is she testing me to see if I will give up right away. Intersting {HOT} girl ,would not like this to be a wrench in my DJ works.

Thanks in advance for the help ...........

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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If she doesn't call you call back in a few days. If she is still flakey say "your loss" and hang up.
 

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If she said she will call you back - she will.

If she doesn't she just doesn't like you. The more you push the issue the more you will look weak to her.

You made the call and had a nice chat so just let her get back to you. In the mean time go meet other women and have - she'll be intouch at some point.
 

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Good point don't want to appear weak. Thanks for your help.

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I hate getting into the position of having to "wait" for the girl to make the move. When she says something like that I just shoot back with "actually, I'm about to start doing _, but I'll give you a call later". Simple, and you keep the ball in your court.

If she's like "gottagobye" and doesn't leave you any time to use the above line, then whatever, it's up to her. Agree with Flexion.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good reply , Thanks for the response, wish I would have said that and kept the ball in my court like you said. Oh well live and learn.

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calling back may make you look weak but who cares.

It's all about you, so if she says I'll call you back, wait a week and then call her yourself. If she doesn't want to go out with you she thinks your weak (but since she wasn't going to go out with you anyway, you didn't loose anything). If she does want to go out with you but forgot your number or lost her cell phone, or is too selfconscience to ever initiate a call to a boy she just met, than you could be doing the horizontal mambo that night.

Here is my plan. When you call her back apologize for not calling her back sooner. "Sorry it took me so long to get back to you, the orphanage I help out got a hole in the roof. " This way it seems like you have a lot going on, and that your not sitting at home waiting for a call from some girl you spoke with for 20 min. at a bar two weeks ago.

Your going to piss off a few girls along the way, some are going to think your weak, but if you want to call this girl back... call her. Stop worring about what some girl is going to think about you.
 

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Very good thoughts on this situation , You are also right in the sense I have nothing to lose. Thanks for your time.......

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Nope, nothing to lose... except for your selfrespect of course :)
 
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