Re: What does she mean when she says "You're too handsome for me"?

[machinegunetiquette]

Hi. I've met this girl on facebook and we've been chatting for awhile and the last time we chatted she said that I'm too handsome for her. Does this mean she's still romantically interested me, or is she putting me in the friend mode?

Thanks.

 

[VladPatton]

Tell her "you're probably right!" It's a test to see how you react.

 

[machinegunetiquette]

Thanks Vlad! I appreciate that.

 

[machinegunetiquette]

Vlad, my question to you, however is, after I say, that, should I compliment her on her beauty or say that inspite of her statement being truthful, I chose her?

 

[BeDJ]

Put yourself in her shoes. When would you ever tell a women that she is too _______ for you?

 

[plate's_empty]

Tell her "you're probably right!" It's a test to see how you react.

yeah, nice. She's expecting you to melt into a chump and compliment her and tell her how good she looks and blah, blah, blah. Do the opposite.

 

[machinegunetiquette]

To Begginning DJ: I'd never say that to her, even if I lacked confidence, because I'd get over that lack of confidence right away.
To Plate is Empty: I think you're onto something.
Thanks guys.

 

[machinegunetiquette]

Guys: I hate bothering you guys again, but because your responses have made me brainstorm a little more, I should probably add the entire sentence she mentioned. She said something to the manner of "I don't think I am your ideal woman. You are too handsome for me." You guys are sure she is not trying to put me in the friend mode?
Again, thanks.

 

[dvjackson]

If she's trying to friendzone you then she's pretty bad at it, telling a guy he's handsome isn't exactly a good way to deter his interest. I agree that it's a test, she's potentially interested and wants to see what you think of her.

 

[plate's_empty]

yes, a test, she could not even know what she wants. Maybe she does really think you're too "handsome" for her. She's interested. But once you lower yourself to her level and not be the "too handsome guy" she's going to become disinterested. Keep her interest level up. Keep being the "too above me guy" and you'll be in a good spot

 

[machinegunetiquette]

To dvjackson and plate's empty:
Thanks guys.

 

[Mike32ct]

She thinks you're overqualified and will just pump and dump her.

 

[VladPatton]

Vlad, my question to you, however is, after I say, that, should I compliment her on her beauty or say that inspite of her statement being truthful, I chose her?

Just basically ignore it. It is a weird thing to say to someone in the initial stages. She may have low self esteem and does want you to lower yourself to some level she sees fit as the other guys said. When you do, she'll then loose interest because, well, you're lesser of a guy now lol. It's ridiculous.

Ignore all comments you don't understand and proceed as usual. Ask her out and go on a date.

 

[floydb25]

Just basically ignore it. It is a weird thing to say to someone in the initial stages. She may have low self esteem and does want you to lower yourself to some level she sees fit as the other guys said. When you do, she'll then loose interest because, well, you're lesser of a guy now lol. It's ridiculous.

Ignore all comments you don't understand and proceed as usual. Ask her out and go on a date.

Too true. As always, this is why you don't believe, assume, or act on what they SAY. Literally as they're saying these things, or being bothered by whatever - they're pursuing you harder, being intrigued by you, getting caught up in the challenge, viewing you as the top prize, etc. Don't go against the grain, and lower yourself to appeal to their supposed wants. Don't make yourself more "normal", focus solely on her, reassure her of this and that...

Follow their actions and interest level - not what they say.

 

[bigneil]

Take no action - wait to see if too handsome to see is handsome enough to pursue.

 

[The Duke]

Typically girls who make statements like this are very insecure. They know a man who is "attractive" has options. She will perceive this as a constant threat to her own security and take it out on the guy.

 

[machinegunetiquette]

Thanks guys for your advice.

 

[zinc4]

tell her she should be more confident in herself..seriously what a turn off though...i would already have lost any attraction for her if she said that to me...no challenge..

 

[floydb25]

Typically girls who make statements like this are very insecure. They know a man who is "attractive" has options. She will perceive this as a constant threat to her own security and take it out on the guy.

A lot of guys act like this too... with male friends. But either way, it just becomes a big ego competition - with guys or girls. Insecure people are trouble; most of them are *******s who need to have the upper-hand and be in control as a result of their inferiority and failure. Bad news.

 

[Thomas Dooley]

Briefly introduce to your little sidekick and see how handsome you really are. If he's outgrown his hiding place, then "Handsome", won't be in her vocabulary, as she'll more than likely have her mouth full of your meat in a matter of minutes. Women shouldn't be saying those things, let alone even talking, so when I hear a woman start talking, anything, I make sure it's when her mouth is full. Then, I just nod my head up and down and say some crap like, "Yeah, ok."