"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Re-Learned a Lesson about being a DJ

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So I decided I was talking to my girlfriend too much and started cutting her off a little more and more, despite the fact that I don't have a job right now and talking to her is one of the few things that entertains me. I just decided we talked too much.

At first nothing changed. But now I think she is starting to fight back by playing games of her own. The only way I can respond is by cutting her off even more. Luckily this will come to a quick resolution next Wednesday (when I next see her), but I've learned a valuable lesson (one that I've learned many times but forgotten): don't take the advice of this site so literally. Now that I have more free time and spend time on this site, I somehow forgot that again.

Just thought I'd pass that on for many here to remember. It's all about the mindset. The "rules" are just to help get you started, they are not a code you should strictly adhere by.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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don't confuse attraction game advice (which is most of this site) with LTR advice

you wanna make yourself scarce to attract a girl who doesn't know you by conveying you're not needy, that makes sense. but you're in an LTR - you start disappearing for no reason and it means you don't care about her
 
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Yeah. I haven't been in an LTR before, at least not one where I actually cared about the girl (I dated one girl for a year and a half but cheated on her 6-7 times until I finally broke up with her). Prior to this I had been more of a ONS guy with a few short relationships. I think I'm a little old for that now though, so I guess I'm starting to learn how do handle an LTR on my own. There isn't much info on this site regarding LTR's unfortunately.
 
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No there isn't much for LTR's specifically but the attraction stuff is the same for a women that your in a LTR with vs a ONS. The most commmon problem I see with LTR's is that guys tend to start acting AFC in LTR's and as a result lose attraction and the interest of the girl.

Girls seem to be natural players, they do it without thinking about it as much as we do. This is evident by her game playing as soon as you cut down the contact.
 
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