Re-joined board, I need to build myself back up!!

[spdracer95]

Here's my deal, I was a member on this board about 4 years ago and I learned alot from this site. When I joined I had no clue what the dating life was all about. Being burned by many women back in the day I decided enough was enough. After learning from this site I had a lot of success with women but after a while of I began to cut back and slowly but surely I turned back into an AFC which brings me back to this site.

I recently started dating a girl and we have been together almost 5 months. 5 months is a long time for me..trust me. I am at that point where I want to settle with someone and start a life with her. Since I have been with her I constantly find myself doing AFC crap!! For some reason I feel weak as a man around her. I feel that she doesnt respect me that much because of my AFCness. I am at that point in the relationship where it's getting kind of boring. I do love this girl, she is really cool and I get along with her well. But like every relationship it is always exciting in the beginning and then it starts to fizzle out and then you are becoming numb and routine. She has a very hard time expressing her self. Conversations with her is mostly surface level and I don't get that mental stimulation from her as I would like. Well I have decided to hang up my AFC hat once again and step up to the plate and be the man I am supposed to be. I hate feeling like a chump and not respected. I hate that I lost most of the skills I have learned from this site but I will be back on my game.

-Jeremy

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Well, welcome back!

So, you are finding yourself becoming afc in your LTR sometimes? Well, I made a post on keeping LTR Interest Level. May not be the best but, there isn't much threads on this topic... http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136122

I would say go back and re-read older threads and get caught up with yourself.

 

[KontrollerX]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134995

Read this excellent post by Squirrels to preserve and strengthen your relationship and avoid an all too common mistake!

 

[slaog]

It's common to slip back into AFC mode when things are going well and you're in the comfort zone. Keep improving always is the key. You're either going forwards or backwards but never staying still.