Re-initiates contact after 3 months

[Roober]

Didn't want to create a new thread, but curious on some ideas as I haven't encountered this yet.

I'm October..
-got girls number
-had date setup and cancelled because I was in my then failing relationship
-tried to setup two other dates, no luck

I see her today and she does a lean looksie loo....
-texts me afterward...
Her: what percent are you done with the tour? (inside joke from when we previously chatted)
Me: Hey stranger. Good to see you again.
Me: 85%. Ask me again in an hour
Her: I past right by you last week but you didn't acknowledge me so I figured it was your evil twin.
Me: Ya. He's in his own world. Just smack his ass, that usually works
Me: How you been?
Her: Lol ok next time I will... so what tour were u doing?.
Her: I been good.. I might be moving up soon.. it's in the hush hush right now(wink emoji)
Me: its about time
Her: year 7. Its lucky number 7
Me: its a 3day program I built
Her: you built?
Me: Ya. 3 days of new hire training. Eesh... Gotta get bback
Her: Have fun Make sure you know what you're talking about! (wink emoji)
Me: I could probably teach you a couple things (wink emoji)

Then I went back to work... I'm not sure where interest is at, to be honest, she had to "Work through things" with an ex when we last chatted in November and gave Me the "don't hate me" line... I have this really bad habit of getting two convos going.. Sigh...

My thoughts... Lets go celebrate at xxx

???

 

[Glassguy]

I would play it cool and say "good seeing you....looking good. Don't be a stranger ".

See how she reacts.

I like showing interest and then leaving it open. That way she will have to slightly invest to keep the convo going. I don't think I would mention going out to celebrate yet. Play a little hard to get.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

If you read that post as if someone else asked this question, what advice would you give that person?

 

[Roober]

If you read that post as if someone else asked this question, what advice would you give that person?

I dunno. Thays why I'm asking. I would probably say it doesn't hurt. A girl sees you and texts you meaning you struck some cord with her. Doesn't hurt to pursue, but don't invest too much into it.

Took @Glassguy advice and got an immediate response. Texted for a bit, then I said cut it short and said I had to go to the gym. If she reaches out again, I'll go for setting up a date... Otherwise it may just be her trying to talk about her promotion and seeking attention.

 

[Urbanyst]

Don't play games.

If you want to sleep with this women then make a move. If you don't, then delete her number.

You guys make this stuff more complex than it is.

 

[The Duke]

I think she is fishing for a little validation. Probably bored, no other guys to deliver her daily dose of attention.

Ask her out, but expect her to flake.

 

[Glassguy]

Don't play games.

If you want to sleep with this women then make a move. If you don't, then delete her number.

You guys make this stuff more complex than it is.

I agree.

Me: Good seeing you today. You're looking good. Dont be a stranger.......
Her: Good seeing you too and I wont be
Me: I am going out to such and such place Thursday night. Join up at 8pm and we will catch up.

At this point she is either going to jump on it, give you some flaky half a$$ answer or not respond.

You will either get a commitment or waste no more time depending on her response.

 

[Alvafe]

its like @Howiestern said, had this happen once, playfull a lot, then she pretty much disapear, 3 months later she send msg asking what is up, tried to meet up, it failed, then never again heard of her

 

[Roober]

Well. Tried to get a date today, no go, but she countered with Thursday. Gave me her address to pick her up, so we will see if she flakes.

 

[BeExcellent]

Sometimes it's all about timing. You never know what someone has going on in their life.

Sometimes it's a promising person who crosses your path at an inopportune time or vice versa.

Glad you got a date set. Give it a fresh start & see what happens.

 

[blind_one]

Don't play games.

If you want to sleep with this women then make a move. If you don't, then delete her number.

You guys make this stuff more complex than it is.

This is what I do when something like that occurs to me. I simply assume interest and try setting up a meeting. Escalate and see what happens.

 

[Roober]

Where you in the friendzone 3 months before? If no, your back and forth texting suggests you still are in the zone.

Not at all. We tried to setup getting together, just never seemed to work out

 

[Roober]

UPDATE:
We went out to happy hour for a little bit. Had a great time. Got back to her place and... dropped her off. She said "I had a great time" and put her arm up to give me a hug. I went in for the kiss which seemed to catch her off guard. kissed back pretty passionately, bit my lip (sexy!), haven't gotten a text yet...

A couple things...
Should I get out of the car when I pick her up? I just texted "I'm here"
Should I walk her to door? it was daytime
After I kissed her (prob about 20 seconds or so), she seemed frazzled and was like "okay, I got to do" and scurried off... whats that about?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

That's enough chit chat. Now arrange to go out.

Her: Have fun Make sure you know what you're talking about!

She's basically telling you ask her to go out here.

Doesn't matter that you asked her out before. You were tied up with someone else. Also that was five months ago; times and you have changed. The reason why she gets back in touch is because you handled the situation correctly first time round; i.e. without desperation.

 

[The Duke]

[QUOTE

A couple things...
Should I get out of the car when I pick her up? I just texted "I'm here" I always send a text when i'm 5minutes away and greet her at her front door.
Should I walk her to door? it was daytime If its a first date I don't. just seems a bit much.
After I kissed her (prob about 20 seconds or so), she seemed frazzled and was like "okay, I got to do" and scurried off... whats that about?[/QUOTE] Who knows, just assume she liked it. if she didn't turn her cheek or seem apprehensive then its all good.