"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Recently got a FB, things are going good. We chill, we ****, we talk, no complaints.
However, I've caught myself slipping occasionally when talking to her either in person or through text etc and I was wondering if you have any suggestions in establishing my frame as I'm wary of giving this girl too much power over me in the fb thing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the first thing i would do is not start threads asking questions on how to reestablish my frame because good as the advice might be at first, once you turn your little computer off you are going to realise that by doing so you are inadvertently already giving your power away by thinking of her constantly.
 
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sylvester the cat said:
the first thing i would do is not start threads asking questions on how to reestablish my frame because good as the advice might be at first, once you turn your little computer off you are going to realise that by doing so you are inadvertently already giving your power away by thinking of her constantly.
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Mate who said I was thinking of it constantly? It came up in my mind and I wanted to deal with it. That's it. I came here looking for advice, if I don't find it here no biggie I'll go with the flow and see where it takes me
What's the big deal.
 
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Dan08 said:
Mate who said I was thinking of it constantly? It came up in my mind and I wanted to deal with it. That's it. I came here looking for advice, if I don't find it here no biggie I'll go with the flow and see where it takes me
What's the big deal.
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ok. don't say i didn't warn you.
 
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How have you caught yourself slipping? Give us an example

Once you've banged a girl the ball is in your court...unless you don't have any other options, which is why a lot of guys end up in a relationship in situations like this. They can't lose the only pvssy in their life
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mr Wright said:
How have you caught yourself slipping? Give us an example

Once you've banged a girl the ball is in your court...unless you don't have any other options, which is why a lot of guys end up in a relationship in situations like this. They can't lose the only pvssy in their life
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Like it's not so much me perhaps slipping verbally, merely I find myself getting more emotionally involved with this girl then I'd like at this time. I still wanna bang her but like you say I'm in the potential for a relationship situation here but I don't want in but neither do I have other pvssy right now. Times are tough hehe.

So how to bring it back to plain ole ****ing?
 
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Spend less time with her, re-focus on yourself and your goals, find another plate and spend time with her.

Any and all those things should help out.
 
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Spend less time with her, re-focus on yourself and your goals, find another plate and spend time with her.

Any and all those things should help out.
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This.

I'd add make sure when you meet up it's just sex and cut the sleepovers(I know she stays over).
 
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