Anyone here ever been into the rave scene, or been to a rave? I used to go but got tired of it. I still hear people talk about how easy it is to meet and hook up with girls at raves, but from what I remember, that's not the case. What do you think??
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No sh!t.....I was at the Monster Massive too. It was pretty fun, but I was wasted. You think you could have hooked up? I always thought so too, but when people are on E, they're really "friendly" but I don't think they actually want to hook up. Sure, I've seen lots of people hook up, but it' still only a very small percentage. Then again, maybe it's just me...hence the question.War Against Betaism said:It is so easy to hook up with girls at raves because everyone is rolling (on ecstasy), I only went to one, the past Monster Massive. I was meeting girls left and right and could have probably fingered or made out with them. If I was drunk I would but I thought it was so dirty, this girl that my friend just met was rubbing his hands all over this girl's leg and she loved it and had his fingers in her panties. I guess I didn't drink enough to enjoy it and I don't wanna do ecstasy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Where you from man? I'm in the valley. I remember the light shows, those e-tards love that sh!t man. When I used to go I never really tried to hook up with the girls, but the sh!t they wear is amazing....and some of them are friggin hott. Have any of your boys pulled girls from raves? You shoulda at least made out with a few if you could have.War Against Betaism said:lol I expected at least a couple of people from this site to have went.
It was probably what I was wearing then, my friend gave me these glasses that had lights on them and everywhere I went people were always saying "nice glasses dude!" One person while I was sitting down even crawled (yeah, crawled!) to say how cool my glasses were. I guess you could say I was really peacocking :s
Might be the group I was with too, they literally go to every single rave and are relatively known throughout LA country and the OC...kinda. I didn't really know anyone except for one person though. All of them gave bomb lightshows and girls were always sitting in front of them asking for a lightshow while the other people in the group swarm in like vultures to feel them up (where she let them willingly).