Rate this text convo I had with a girl I met in a club

[DXX]

Me: Hey Jane how's it going? I had a really good time with you last night. Sorry if I was a bit too eager, I couldn't help myself . The ride home almost drove me insane haha. I'll give you a call tomorrow about what we're doing on tuesday if you're not busy

Jane: Hey! I'm good. No worries about last night haha. So you're going out on tues?

Me: Yeah if you want. Don't know where yet. Maybe an empty classroom at my college after a few drinks at the bar. Sound good? Or we could be boring and go see a movie instead. Up to you

Jane: Wait haha I'm confused. Did we make plans last night to hang out on tues because I don't remember.

Me: Nah I just thought of it then. Preferably I'd see you tomorrow but I have a lot of work to finish

Jane: Ah yeah I have a ton of work too. Well I can't make any promises because my schedule is really hectic, but I might be able to do something on tues. Btw do you have facebook?

Me: You need to get your priorities right. What the hell is facebook? Is that something like google?

Jane: That's sarcasm right?

Me: Maybe a little bit. So do I have to make an appointment or something?

Jane: Haha I can't help it. I'm a busy girl! P.S. we're you joking about the empty room at college? I'm really not so sure

Me: Well I only need about 5 minutes on average. Actually, probably only 2 for you. Surely you can spare that. Sorry, did you want spectators or something? How's american studies going? What area do you specialise in?

Jane: Haha well I wouldn't broadcast that to the world. And american studies is good. My focus is media studies. I'm sure you're intrigued by this

Me: Well I like to be honest. I just wanted to make sure you weren't a feminist. But I'm always open to learning about new things. Do you do private tutoring? I can teach you math in return

Jane: No thanks I'm not a fan of math. Why are you so anti-feminism?

Me: I just don't get on with them for some reason. It might be the short hair and hairy armpits. But I'm not too sure......

Jane: Well technically a feminist is anyone who believes in women's rights so I am one. Guess we can't talk anymore

Me: Oh well. It was good while it lasted I guess. I'm not good at keeping appointments anyway. Can you at least give me some advice on what to improve on?

Jane: Improve on in what aspect?

Me: Anything. Just be honest. You won't hurt my feelings. For example for you I'd say to ditch the underwear next time you go clubbing if you want to have more fun. You get the drift

Jane: I don't think you need the advice. You obviously already know the way into a girl's heart

Me: So I have your heart already? Come on, don't give it to me that easily. I'll lose interest

Jane: Oh yeah, you have definitely wooed me with your invitiation for a romantic 2 minutes in an empty classroom

Me: Joke of course. I'm offended that you think that I'm that much of a slut. Maybe after 10 drinks but not sober. I'm a virgin you know. My mom won't let me until I'm married

Jane: Oh I'm sure. She must be a very proud mama

Me: Ok no more jokes then. I didn't mean to offend you or anything, I just take it too far sometimes. If you want me to leave you alone just say the word

Jane: Haha I'm not easily offended don't worry. This has been an interesting text convo though I must say

Me: Thank god because I really like you and thought that I had blown it. I'm going to bed I have a big day tomorrow. Let me know if there's an opening

Jane: Haha okay. Goodnight!

 

[NickSCFC2000]

Sorry if I was a bit too eager, I couldn't help myself .

OUCH!

Too much!

 

[djinhell]

Please tell me this is a joke.

Man, if this was a genuine text conversation then all i can say is..OH DEAR!

It was way too long for a text convo. not only that, but even the first message u sent screamed AFC, and the conversation never recovered from that!

She has not committed to seeing you after all of that...and I'd be amazed if u do get a date out of her...

I wish you luck with it, but to be honest, that is a perfect 'what not to do' guide.

Dj In Hell

 

[Captain]

Too long!

Don't have conversations by text.

 

[Scars]

You failed. For sure. But instead of leaving it at that I'm going to try and offer you some constructive criticism at least.

Me: Hey Jane how's it going? I had a really good time with you last night. Sorry if I was a bit too eager, I couldn't help myself . The ride home almost drove me insane haha. I'll give you a call tomorrow about what we're doing on tuesday if you're not busy

Weak opener. You came off extremely needy. Why are you APOLOGIZING? Also, don't ever say anything about a second meet-up in the very first text. You want to butter them up first. Just because she was reacting positively too you last night doesn't mean she was ATTRACTED. People become friendly when they drink. This is your chance to flirt her up and get her attraction built up slightly. Clevery funny openers are they way too go, and don't ever mention a second meet up right away.

Jane: Hey! I'm good. No worries about last night haha. So you're going out on tues?

Me: Yeah if you want. Don't know where yet. Maybe an empty classroom at my college after a few drinks at the bar. Sound good? Or we could be boring and go see a movie instead. Up to you

Jane: Wait haha I'm confused. Did we make plans last night to hang out on tues because I don't remember.

This should have been your first red flag right here that she is going to flake and be non-receptive from this point on.

Me: Nah I just thought of it then. Preferably I'd see you tomorrow but I have a lot of work to finish

Jane: Ah yeah I have a ton of work too. Well I can't make any promises because my schedule is really hectic, but I might be able to do something on tues. Btw do you have facebook?

Flake.

Me: You need to get your priorities right. What the hell is facebook? Is that something like google?

Jane: That's sarcasm right?

Not really sure what is going on here. If this was an attempt at a C+F you failed. And you also borderline insulted her with that first sentence. You need to not be so reactive. You're "punishing" her because she is busy? YOU should be a busy man too.

Me: Maybe a little bit. So do I have to make an appointment or something?

You just DLV'd yourself.

Jane: Haha I can't help it. I'm a busy girl! P.S. we're you joking about the empty room at college? I'm really not so sure

You're hanging by a thread here. I think you still might of had a chance of salvaging your mistakes if you had just kept a strong sexual and confident frame, but then you...

Me: Well I only need about 5 minutes on average. Actually, probably only 2 for you. Surely you can spare that. Sorry, did you want spectators or something? How's american studies going? What area do you specialise in?

You DLV'd yourself once again. And then at the end you try to change the subject which shows your insecurity by masking your previous sexual advances just incase she isn't as receptive to the earlier stuff she could write back to the later more innocent stuff. It's outlining your insecurity and she can smell it.

Jane: Haha well I wouldn't broadcast that to the world. And american studies is good. My focus is media studies. I'm sure you're intrigued by this

Me: Well I like to be honest. I just wanted to make sure you weren't a feminist. But I'm always open to learning about new things. Do you do private tutoring? I can teach you math in return

Jane: No thanks I'm not a fan of math. Why are you so anti-feminism?

Me: I just don't get on with them for some reason. It might be the short hair and hairy armpits. But I'm not too sure......

Jane: Well technically a feminist is anyone who believes in women's rights so I am one. Guess we can't talk anymore

Me: Oh well. It was good while it lasted I guess. I'm not good at keeping appointments anyway. Can you at least give me some advice on what to improve on?

You were actually doing alright (not agreeing with her) but then you shotgunned your chances with the "Can you at least give me some advice on what to improve on?" WTF is this? Another DLV. She now knows that all your previous C+F (or lack of F) was all fake, a gimmick. She tested you, and you failed.

Jane: Improve on in what aspect?

Me: Anything. Just be honest. You won't hurt my feelings. For example for you I'd say to ditch the underwear next time you go clubbing if you want to have more fun. You get the drift

Jane: I don't think you need the advice. You obviously already know the way into a girl's heart

It's seriously time to eject buddy.

Me: So I have your heart already? Come on, don't give it to me that easily. I'll lose interest

Jane: Oh yeah, you have definitely wooed me with your invitiation for a romantic 2 minutes in an empty classroom

...And you still won't let go. Just accept defeat. Live and learn.

Me: Joke of course. I'm offended that you think that I'm that much of a slut. Maybe after 10 drinks but not sober. I'm a virgin you know. My mom won't let me until I'm married

Jane: Oh I'm sure. She must be a very proud mama

This is almost getting painful to read.

Me: Ok no more jokes then. I didn't mean to offend you or anything, I just take it too far sometimes. If you want me to leave you alone just say the word

Jane: Haha I'm not easily offended don't worry. This has been an interesting text convo though I must say

Once again DLV yourself. Apologizing. And then asking for permission to leave her alone? Where are your balls?

Me: Thank god because I really like you and thought that I had blown it. I'm going to bed I have a big day tomorrow. Let me know if there's an opening

Jane: Haha okay. Goodnight!

Oh, but you did blow it buddy. This is a for sure flake. Delete this number from your phone and forget her. Take this as a learning experience. Hopefully you'll do better next time. Oh and next time, CALL to set up a second date and perhaps give it a few days. Always open strong, funny and sexual confident frame. Joke with her a bit, tease her and bust her balls and when you feel like the time is right ask her for another hang out. No need to jump the gun buddy. Seduction is a dance, you got to flow with the rhythm.

 

[cola]

The good: Very witty, definately not boring, good humor .. Nice job telling her that you were going out tuesday and not asking .. very suave you should add it to your repitoire ..

The bad: Very appologetic.. comes off as "im trying to be cool, but not trying to turn you off" when your attitude should be " i am cool and if i turn you off oh well"..
i wouldnt say it was too long.. and i also disagree with the kid who said dont have text conversations.. i know very few people who talk on the phone extensively anymore..
even senior citizens are texting.. i use about 50 anytime minutes a month if that.

Since you had a mix of good and bad i would say she may flake tuesday but dont delete her quite yet.. you can recover just tone down the appologeticness <- word?


g/l
chris

 

[SleepyRangerMedic82D]

Yeah dude, that text convo made me cringe. I would take it a step further and say you kind of came off as creepy.

Talking about sex can be super fun, but not unless she is feeling it. You can't just ask to bring her back and bang it out. I mean unless she is already into you and just down for that. But you were way too eager and like I said, came off as creepy

 

[pua1989]

are you kidding me??!?! how can anyone say there was anything good about that text convo....holy shít she genuinely was creeped out (RIGHTLY SO) wow hahahahah