Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
My thoughts exactly. Regardless of what they look like - you can't be too too sweet. Some of them also play the role of a nice girl. Finding a middle ground is best. It also depends on the kind of person they are, which you can't find out for a while. Not assuming or trusting too soon is the best route to take. Someone who looks good can still be bad; don't be fooled by initial appearances. Treat them as you would anyone else until you know them well. If they seem decent - there's no reason to not be decent back. Just don't go overboard into nice guy territory. That works for no one, and simply isn't attractive. All girls like a challenge, mystery, and things like that.Jariel said:
Yes, believe it or not, she has slept with a lot of guys (as I later found out). If I were to guess, it's 20-30+. Lots of one night stands. (I got access to her email one day...) That really shocked the hell out of me (and led to me becoming majorly insecure).floydb25 said:
It's not suprising. I know girls like this, and have experienced them in our own relationships as well. You absolutely cannot assume anything, or trust anyone, or be fooled by how they want to be perceived. Most everyone plays the good girl role. Guys as well. You have to keep your guard up and not give anyone the benefit of the doubt. Don't be fooled by appearances, behaviors, or words (ie, claims, lies, and excuses). Most people aren't as sweet and innocent as they WANT you to believe, and will try to put themselves in the best light possible. But, if you pay close attention - you can still see the cracks, and tell when something is amiss.easun said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That is so common its actually disgusting. I one time asked a girl I went nuclear with if her boyfriend liked the taste of different c0cks every night. I dodged a pretty hard slap.
True, but they still try to save face about it. That's where men get screwed up sometimes. Who they claim to be, and want you to believe they are isn't who they really are. They're basically lying. I can see bitterness stemming from that. But this is just one of life's lessons that we learn the hard way by dealing with people over time. We all learn not to trust so easily, aren't fooled anymore, etc.Vice said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
