She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No need to "change yourself" per se, just improve yourself for yourself. You need to improve yourself for you, not for others. Once you do that, others tend to notice and are drawn to you if the improvement is significant and helps move you forward in life.
If you’re a smart and maybe even kinda geeky guy, just own it dude. It’s not a negative attribute. We live in an anti-intellectual climate lately and it breeds this dumb idea that being smart is a disadvantage somehow.
I know but due to the current racial tension in society due to the current political environment I like to make light of it and rock the boat. I don't care about race really but i like to troll liberals especially if they're non-white. I just kid though.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Meant to say for this, hit up a second-hand store/thrift shop if you want to get one. A good one will get better as it's worn in and will be resistant to damage or damp, so its age will actually improve it over something you just pulled off a shelf new.
Whats wrong with that?
Nothing at all. It's a good thing.