Rate and criticise the way I handled the situations

[lizardking82]

Situation 1

18 year old girl, HB8 at least, HB9 maybe. She was liking and commenting on my Insta pics since 6/7 months now, sent her a message, talked a bit there, took her number, went to Whatsapp. Talked there for about 1 hour or 2 then I left cause I had some stuff to do. She complimented me early into the conversation "People who are near you are lucky to be able to have your opinion on things" "I knew you were not just another photographer when I followed you on Insta" bla bla bla, all these things are nice, but it's not like she caressed my ego a lot or sth. She kept talking a lot and wrote not shortly, returned messages quite quickly.

On the second night, where we talked for about 4-5 hours (she had to go to school that day, stayed up until 4 am anyways), I asked her to go out and her answer was "It's a bit too fast, we only know each other for not even 2 days).

In my mind, that's fair enough, but you guys tell me if you see it differently. Third day we talked again, but then I decided I will not write to her and see if she will do that first. 5 days now, she has not contacted me personally, but keeps on liking posts on Insta. She's a virgin, parents divorced since 11 years, has 3 sisters, lives with mom, has OK relationship with her dad (kinda got the feeling she loves her dad more than her mom).

How did I handle it? How would you have handled it? How would you handle it taking into account where the situation is now?

Situation 2

Around 30 year old woman, slutty behaviour and Insta profile, HB7 approximately (body 8, face 6). Invited her to go out shooting some pics, she agreed with pleasure, told her I will contact her later one as I was really busy for the moment. I contacted her about a month after, telling her I had not forgotten about the pics and her answer was instant and enthusiastic, she literally told me "I wanna invite you out for a drink, whenever you can/want".

About a week later, I wake up in the morning with morning wood, write to her at around 11 am (that's morning for me LOL), telling her "I've had some interesting ideas about you" and she goes "oh, really? Tell me about those ideas, honey" and it was clear she got what I meant. The rest was porn with her saying "I will suck you and eat you raw, I wonder if you can handle me, I cannot write long cause I am too hot and in heat" LOL so after enjoying the convo for a short while, I tell her "You wanna meet tonight at around 9 pm, go somewhere alone?" and she just lets the message "seen" LOL so I stopped writing to her and I think it's just stupid from her to play games like this.

I lean towards never contacting her again, but still the same questions: How did I handle it? How would you have? How would you as things stand?

 

[Thorninmyside]

Both instasluts. Both all talk and no action, partly your fault because you didn't convert and spent a lot of time not escalating the first one.

Situation 1: you didn't qualify her. You just kept talking. 5 hours? Should have been 20 minutes and then "look, I gotta do stuff but let's meet up for coffee and talk more" (always be escalating, do drinks if 18 is drinking age in your country). You gave her 5 hours and the power. She already respected you but you showed her through action that you have time to sit around and text all night. You would have known after 20 mins if she was a real prospect or not. Just like sales, "No" is often a request for more information (not talking rape here). You could have taken that early NO and decided from there to invest more time or withdraw, but you spent half a normal work day achieving rejection.

Situation 2: You sexted a slut but you probably could have gone without indulging in that and stuck to the original plan of meeting for "creative purposes" and then banged. Instead, she fingered herself and didn't need your meet up anymore. Maybe she went ASD after getting caught up in the moment, but that moment should have been with your **** in her hand, not her phone.

 

[wifehunter]

You had me at "sluts" lolz