"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Rat Utopia Reconsidered.

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About ten years ago I posted a thread on Calhouns Seminal work on Mice and Rats his"Behavioural Sink".
our little group is somewhat reflective of Society at large and many of the Rat Utopia Groups that evolved can be seen in our members...Not saying we have any cannibals or murderers yet LOL...But the evolution we are part of and reflect are certainly worth considering in the light of this interesting article
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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medium.com is a notorious paywall site

Can you copy & paste what's in that article?
I refuse to click on that link.
 

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Hi Tilex,
This site will only take 10.000 words...There is no Paywall.
 

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It was looking hopeful for a while with WFH. But now all the inhuman resource departments are demanding 2 days a week in the office. So back into the box we all go.
 

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medium.com is a notorious paywall site

Can you copy & paste what's in that article?
I refuse to click on that link.
Download Firefox and then download this free browser extension to bypass any paywall on a news site


It was looking hopeful for a while with WFH. But now all the inhuman resource departments are demanding 2 days a week in the office. So back into the box we all go.
It's because they have a multi year lease on those office spaces, they don't want it to go to "waste". They claim it's for productivity but we all know that is BS.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quote:

The mouse is a simple creature, but it must develop the skills for courtship, child-rearing, territorial defense and personal role fulfillment on the domestic and communal front. If such skills fail to develop, the individual will neither reproduce nor find a productive role within society.

As with mice, all species will grow older and gradually die out. There is nothing to suggest human society isn’t prone to the same developments that led to the demise of Universe 25.

If the number of qualified individuals exceeds the number of openings in society, chaos and alienation will be the inevitable outcomes.
Individuals raised under the latter conditions will lack any relation to the real world. Physiological fulfillment will be their only drive in life.

Just as mice thrive on a set of complex behaviors, the concern for others developed in post-industrial human skills and understandings is vital to man’s continuance as a species. The loss of these attributes within a civilization could lead to its collapse
 

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medium.com is a notorious paywall site

Can you copy & paste what's in that article?
I refuse to click on that link.
Oddly medium shows signed in users a paywall, the same link opened in incognito(gues user) doesn't show the paywall.
 
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