"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rapport, anybody can share some knowledge or tricks?

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As title, I think it would be really useful to master such concept for all of those (like me) who have no problem to approach girls and get number but struggle to get dates after the first meeting at the club.

If anybody thinks he can share some experience or "how to" is more than welcome.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The biggest thing I've ever learned that's effective for rapport is to actually listen. Listen to what they're talking about and try to relate it to your own life. The more things you have in common or the more things that you two find relateable the more you worm your way into her heart and thoughts.
 

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Be more open about yourself, it gets people to be open to you and creates trust.
 

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The key to building rapport is to make her feel comfortable with you. For that to happen you must get her to talk about herself. Desires, ambitions, her life etc. Be sure to not talk too much about yourself. Be a little mysterious so she can project desires unto you.

So when I'm in the spot talking to a female I am interviewing her. Making her comfortable with me! and in the club I give girls my number and instruct them to call me. They give their number out to 100 dudes. Be different.
 

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Google "deep rapport".

I'm not usually big on PUA concepts but this is actually something that isn't based on your ability to do card tricks or pretend to be a fortune teller.

I believe it's all based on a study by Arthur Aron who developed what he called "The Sharing Game". You can find the study online if you want, but the long and the short of it is that this psychologist said that personal intimacy (aka, rapport) is facilitated most effectively with personal disclosure. So if you want the girl to feel some kind of connection with you, it will be helpful to get her telling you things about herself. The trick is, that the personal intimacy felt is directly related to the personal nature of the disclosure. So you don't want her telling you a bunch of fluff crap about her job and her dog, you want juicy details about who she actually is.

Aron decided the best way to get people to voluntarily disclose more personal information was to start by asking them very low risk questions and progressively escalating to much more high risk questions. This is an effective technique because after each question, the girl's investment in you has increased because the proportion of information she has revealed to you about herself has increased. Her self disclosure has gone up.

You can read the questions here:

http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/36-questions-in-45-minutes-make-any-2-people-fall-in-love-vt120045.html

Some have gone so far as to say that you can use those questions to make someone fall in love with you in 45 minutes. I don't think so. But I do think that if you are clever and a good communicator, you should be able to get the girl spilling her guts to you pretty easily if she's actually interested in you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Get them to talk about their favorite thing - themselves. Its not hard to do.

Then, if you're clicking at all, subtley, subtley let them know that they are sexually desirable. Start slow, build quickly, no drooling, leering or pawing.
 

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Talk. A lot. Talk her ear off. Make her understand you. Make her want to tell you about her. Then escalate and make your move. Sex is the best form of rapport.
 

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ladyzman said:
Talk. A lot. Talk her ear off. Make her understand you. Make her want to tell you about her. Then escalate and make your move. Sex is the best form of rapport.
What I bolded is true but I'm very leery of the rest.

You want her disclosing information about herself to you. Of course you'll have to give her some info, but dude, you don't give away the ending so quickly! Why would you want to give the girl all of your information? You should be vetting her and trying to figure out who she is to determine if she's worthy, not giving her the information you should be seeking so that she can qualify you.

Definitely talk, but you should be talking in an attempt to get her to disclose information about herself. Telling your life story isn't likely to get you very far.
 

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FairShake said:
The biggest thing I've ever learned that's effective for rapport is to actually listen. Listen to what they're talking about and try to relate it to your own life. The more things you have in common or the more things that you two find relateable the more you worm your way into her heart and thoughts.
Exactly. Rapport and comfort is probably the easiest part of interacting with women. Actually building attraction tends to be more difficult for most men.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FairShake said:
The biggest thing I've ever learned that's effective for rapport is to actually listen. Listen to what they're talking about and try to relate it to your own life. The more things you have in common or the more things that you two find relateable the more you worm your way into her heart and thoughts.
Completely agree.
 
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