"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rapport, anybody can share some knowledge or tricks?

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As title, I think it would be really useful to master such concept for all of those (like me) who have no problem to approach girls and get number but struggle to get dates after the first meeting at the club.

If anybody thinks he can share some experience or "how to" is more than welcome.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The biggest thing I've ever learned that's effective for rapport is to actually listen. Listen to what they're talking about and try to relate it to your own life. The more things you have in common or the more things that you two find relateable the more you worm your way into her heart and thoughts.
 

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Be more open about yourself, it gets people to be open to you and creates trust.
 

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The key to building rapport is to make her feel comfortable with you. For that to happen you must get her to talk about herself. Desires, ambitions, her life etc. Be sure to not talk too much about yourself. Be a little mysterious so she can project desires unto you.

So when I'm in the spot talking to a female I am interviewing her. Making her comfortable with me! and in the club I give girls my number and instruct them to call me. They give their number out to 100 dudes. Be different.
 

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Google "deep rapport".

I'm not usually big on PUA concepts but this is actually something that isn't based on your ability to do card tricks or pretend to be a fortune teller.

I believe it's all based on a study by Arthur Aron who developed what he called "The Sharing Game". You can find the study online if you want, but the long and the short of it is that this psychologist said that personal intimacy (aka, rapport) is facilitated most effectively with personal disclosure. So if you want the girl to feel some kind of connection with you, it will be helpful to get her telling you things about herself. The trick is, that the personal intimacy felt is directly related to the personal nature of the disclosure. So you don't want her telling you a bunch of fluff crap about her job and her dog, you want juicy details about who she actually is.

Aron decided the best way to get people to voluntarily disclose more personal information was to start by asking them very low risk questions and progressively escalating to much more high risk questions. This is an effective technique because after each question, the girl's investment in you has increased because the proportion of information she has revealed to you about herself has increased. Her self disclosure has gone up.

You can read the questions here:

http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/36-questions-in-45-minutes-make-any-2-people-fall-in-love-vt120045.html

Some have gone so far as to say that you can use those questions to make someone fall in love with you in 45 minutes. I don't think so. But I do think that if you are clever and a good communicator, you should be able to get the girl spilling her guts to you pretty easily if she's actually interested in you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Get them to talk about their favorite thing - themselves. Its not hard to do.

Then, if you're clicking at all, subtley, subtley let them know that they are sexually desirable. Start slow, build quickly, no drooling, leering or pawing.
 

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Talk. A lot. Talk her ear off. Make her understand you. Make her want to tell you about her. Then escalate and make your move. Sex is the best form of rapport.
 

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ladyzman said:
Talk. A lot. Talk her ear off. Make her understand you. Make her want to tell you about her. Then escalate and make your move. Sex is the best form of rapport.
What I bolded is true but I'm very leery of the rest.

You want her disclosing information about herself to you. Of course you'll have to give her some info, but dude, you don't give away the ending so quickly! Why would you want to give the girl all of your information? You should be vetting her and trying to figure out who she is to determine if she's worthy, not giving her the information you should be seeking so that she can qualify you.

Definitely talk, but you should be talking in an attempt to get her to disclose information about herself. Telling your life story isn't likely to get you very far.
 

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FairShake said:
The biggest thing I've ever learned that's effective for rapport is to actually listen. Listen to what they're talking about and try to relate it to your own life. The more things you have in common or the more things that you two find relateable the more you worm your way into her heart and thoughts.
Exactly. Rapport and comfort is probably the easiest part of interacting with women. Actually building attraction tends to be more difficult for most men.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FairShake said:
The biggest thing I've ever learned that's effective for rapport is to actually listen. Listen to what they're talking about and try to relate it to your own life. The more things you have in common or the more things that you two find relateable the more you worm your way into her heart and thoughts.
Completely agree.
 
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