Rape? GF question..

[MidnightResistance]

Loads of chicks I've been with have said they got date raped.
It's bull****.

The best response is to say "I'll let you get on top then."

 

[Double]

i feel sorry for the threadstarter. you should be the one who games not viceversa!!you are very naive for making a
manipulative slut your gf. foolling around if you dont have better options is one thing, having a ***** as a "gf" and caring about her emotionally i only feel pity. i hope you will make the necessary decision!

 

[bud1971]

Run away!

Typical A.W. behavior......

She is playing the victim card. Spending the night and laying in the same bed with someone you don't intend to sleep with?

I would normally advise you to continue having carnal relations with her as you are searching for a replacement or two.....but you could end up on her blog. Respectfully walk away and never look back.

 

[bud1971]

Hey Midnight,

Just saw your post....that's funny stuff right there! However; if memory serves me correctly, didn't that chick that accused Mike Tyson of raping her get on top? I do remember that she used the phone in the bathroom to call a friend during the supposed attack.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by pressure0354
ok so apparently my girlfriend said she was once date-raped. i guess i would like to hear some point of views on this. now i don't know a lot of detail because i figure its a really touchy subject to talk about. so i jsut have the general idea of only the few times shes mentioned it.

from what she tells me, she went on a date with this guy and went back and slept over his apart/house - whatever. maybe drinking a little bit maybe not. im not sure. but i guess when they were laying down she was facing away from him and not really giving him physical signs she was interested. but somehow he ended up having sex with her and her not wanting it.

now i know thats really vague and such. ive even seen her cry once before admiting that shes been raped.

but what really gets me is that she admited to never verbally saying "no". she never told him not to do it. and im pretty sure a girl has to give in phyically at some point to have sex, right? i dont think he phyically forced her (i.e. holding her down as she was struggling) and he didn't drug her. i think what happened was that she just gave in and didn't really want to but felt like she had to.

so im just really confused as to what to think. would you consider that rape? or is it she just is really disappointed in herself for letting herself do that, even though she didnt want to.

id like to talk more about this but don't want to seem an ******* in not taking her side 100%.... what you guys think?

Are you kidding? Date rape is when he slips GHB into her drink, and it knocks her out cold, and he screws her then. Your example is NOT date rape.

 

[pressure0354]

wow this post is kinda crazy now.


shes a nice honest girl man, shes not a little slut or anything.

 

[Faded Image]

According to www.hyperdicitionary.com and 1913 Websters Dictionary
Definition: [n] the crime of forcing a woman to submit to sexual intercourse against her will
[v] assault sexually; force to have sex

Definition: \Rape\ (r[=a]p), n. [F. r[^a]pe a grape stalk.]
\Rape\, n. [Akin to rap to snatch, but confused with L.
rapere. See {Rap} to snatch.]

1. The act of seizing and carrying away by force; violent
seizure; robbery.



And ruined orphans of thy rapes complain. --Sandys.

2. (Law) Sexual connection with a woman without her consent.
See {Age of consent}, under {Consent}, n.



3. That which is snatched away. [Obs.]

\Rape\, v. t.
To commit rape upon; to ravish.
Rape\, v. i.
To rob; to pillage. [Obs.] --Heywood.

That's not rape my friend. That's just her having sex with someone who she's embarrased to say she had sex with.

Mr. Unobtainable

 

[libre]

Young man

I haven't read the answers that you got and probably some are great. I add this. If this young woman was indeed raped, it is a far too complicated life event for you to try to handle. This girl needs professional help which you cannot give. Do not try to be her psychiatrist and/or try to save her; you cannot give her adequate support and will only be drawn in HER problems. You are not a psychiatrist. If you do try to help her, her problem will become your problem and not yours.

If she wasn't raped, and you have no way of knowing, this girl has quite acute problems, and you might be taken in for quite a ride. As a potential rape wictim, it does seem surprising that she talks so much freely about it and she does bring the subject up regularly. Is she using that argument to manipulate you? Umh? I would be prudent with her.

Good luck young man

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by Faded Image
That's just her having sex with someone who she's embarrased to say she had sex with.

One of the reasons you can't trust her when she gives you the number of men she slept with.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Originally posted by pressure0354
ok so apparently my girlfriend said she was once date-raped. i guess i would like to hear some point of views on this. now i don't know a lot of detail because i figure its a really touchy subject to talk about. so i jsut have the general idea of only the few times shes mentioned it.

from what she tells me, she went on a date with this guy and went back and slept over his apart/house - whatever. maybe drinking a little bit maybe not. im not sure. but i guess when they were laying down she was facing away from him and not really giving him physical signs she was interested. but somehow he ended up having sex with her and her not wanting it.

now i know thats really vague and such. ive even seen her cry once before admiting that shes been raped.

but what really gets me is that she admited to never verbally saying "no". she never told him not to do it. and im pretty sure a girl has to give in phyically at some point to have sex, right? i dont think he phyically forced her (i.e. holding her down as she was struggling) and he didn't drug her. i think what happened was that she just gave in and didn't really want to but felt like she had to.

so im just really confused as to what to think. would you consider that rape? or is it she just is really disappointed in herself for letting herself do that, even though she didnt want to.

id like to talk more about this but don't want to seem an ******* in not taking her side 100%.... what you guys think?

Oh God, the tired old story again. She feels like a hoe as a result of that experience so she justifies it as being rape! Shift in responsibility. As simple as that! A girl that doesn't want things to lead to sex does NOT go to a guy's house, gets drunk and sleeps in the same bed as him. Where is the COMMON SENSE?? I'm VERY skeptical when chicks tell me they've been raped.

 

[snintel]

She didn't get raped, stupid girl just regrets doing him and wants to feel like the victim. You should probably dump her cause who knows what she will try to do to you if she ever gets pissed.