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Rant: Don't Leave the Door Open w/ the B!tch

Willie Naylor

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If you've been kickin it with a girl for a few weeks/few months.... At the first sign of disrespect or drama, drop the b!tch.

Don't be soft and leave the door open for a possible rekindling of things. Don't convince yourself that you can just keep her around as a plate.

Quit letting the girl's pvssy control you. Quit letting her drag you back into her web of fvckedupness.

Drop. The. B!tch.

And don't look back.
 

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If you've been kickin it with a girl for a few weeks/few months.... At the first sign of disrespect or drama, drop the b!tch.

Don't be soft and leave the door open for a possible rekindling of things. Don't convince yourself that you can just keep her around as a plate.

Quit letting the girl's pvssy control you. Quit letting her drag you back into her web of fvckedupness.

Drop. The. B!tch.

And don't look back.
Ranting is good and healthy, because it opens the pressure vulve.

Now, while the points you raise are all valid and solid, and have regularly been echoed here through the years; I feel that they need to have rounded edges to be fully productively embraceable. I will attempt to provide that rounding here.

Disrespect from a woman is never a good thing, and you are right that an offender ought to be dropped for it early doors. However, too much haste in reaction can cause you to lose otherwise good people. When disrespect crops up, take a moment to assess and understand it.
Is it accidental or intentional?
Is it a sign of deeper existing issues with the woman?
Is it her reaction to your own provocation that you are unaware of?
Is she just a muddy diamond that just requires a little spit and polish?

Dropping someone at the first sign of alarm can actually be a sign of weakness on your part sometimes. Everybody puts a foot wrong from time to time; nobody is 100% perfect. Imagine if employers fired for the very first mistake - who among us would be in a job?

Everyone deserves a second shot, even women. If you run through life searching for the perfect saintly woman, you will die a very exhausted old and lonely man.

Yes, a disrespectful woman must be cut loose, but on the back of a balanced evaluation of her infringement.
 

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Hi Family Man,
Can't agree with you old Chap,speaking from experience I have a Plate I have been spinning for 36Years,others 14 and 9 years and still they perform very nicely on a desultory basis...At your age you are still going up in the elevator,as aging kicks in and the elevator inevitably proceeds back down,you will be grateful to meet some of your superceded models
 

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Just set your standards. They will sort themselves out soon enough.
 

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Haha this is a rant thread. Everyone here is right at different times. We re far from perfect as well. I missed out on kids because I had two attractive feminine and perfectly serviceable women at different times who were up for it and I didn't know how to manage them. Note: each would have required very different management. It was before I found SS and did some long overdue homework.

Not crying into my beer. Plenty of childless couples who learn how to be happy and my sister's have kids so I can help the family.
 
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If you've been kickin it with a girl for a few weeks/few months.... At the first sign of disrespect or drama, drop the b!tch.

Don't be soft and leave the door open for a possible rekindling of things. Don't convince yourself that you can just keep her around as a plate.

Quit letting the girl's pvssy control you. Quit letting her drag you back into her web of fvckedupness.

Drop. The. B!tch.

And don't look back.
the world is ganna spin. enjoy it the best way you can.
 

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If you've been kickin it with a girl for a few weeks/few months.... At the first sign of disrespect or drama, drop the b!tch.

Don't be soft and leave the door open for a possible rekindling of things. Don't convince yourself that you can just keep her around as a plate.

Quit letting the girl's pvssy control you. Quit letting her drag you back into her web of fvckedupness.

Drop. The. B!tch.

And don't look back.
This is the Game.

Don't let it make you angry.

This is the archetypical story of what happens when you get into a relationship with a woman. It's a power struggle, even when it doesn't appear to be. The Game never stops. Even if you marry her. The Sexual Marketplace is something we can never protect or insulate ourselves from.

Why do you think an entire legal apparatus (now dismantled) was set up around marriage and divorce that made it extremely difficult for couples to separate? They didn't set up this system for fun. Our ancestors were acutely aware of the realities of Human Nature.

That is why no sane Man would ever put himself in a position where he can be effected by the capricious nature of Women. You are only ever as good as your last day with a woman. Even if you've invested 10 years in her. Once those "feelz" start to evaporate, which is inevitable in time, then you're on a ticking clock.
 

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I prefer to let her know she disrespected you and you will not tolerate that behavior.

Women want to be led. They want to follow your lead. A quick retreat at the first sign of disrespect is not leadership.

Assuming she has something to offer, she is worth being taught what lines not to cross with you.

Women test their men all the time. My wife still does.

These tests are literally subconscious. The better you respond to their tests, the more they respect you.

Often disrespect is a sign you failed multiple tests or were oblivious to tests from your woman.

Hint: often missing a single test is one too many for most women.
 

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Hi Family Man,
Can't agree with you old Chap,speaking from experience I have a Plate I have been spinning for 36Years,others 14 and 9 years and still they perform very nicely on a desultory basis...At your age you are still going up in the elevator,as aging kicks in and the elevator inevitably proceeds back down,you will be grateful to meet some of your superceded models
That's unrealistic.

Attractive women are not going to put up with "Plate Status" for years. Even celebrities struggle with that. If women were truly happy just being plated then there'd be nothing complex.

What is clear is this - For men to get what they truly want (unlimited sex with unlimited women), then the woman must sacrifice her own sexual strategy (commitment from the highest value man she can possibly secure).

So, men and women have different sexual strategies and there will always be tension.
 
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I prefer to let her know she disrespected you and you will not tolerate that behavior.

Women want to be led. They want to follow your lead. A quick retreat at the first sign of disrespect is not leadership.

Assuming she has something to offer, she is worth being taught what lines not to cross with you.

Women test their men all the time. My wife still does.

These tests are literally subconscious. The better you respond to their tests, the more they respect you.

Often disrespect is a sign you failed multiple tests or were oblivious to tests from your woman.

Hint: often missing a single test is one too many for most women.
Getting married is failing a huge test. You probably still get tested by your wife all the time because of this huge sh1t test failure.

Women are twisted, man. By committing to her you're failing the abundant alpha test.
 

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Thank God we ve got these young guys to tell us how the world works. I personally had a plate for 13 years and I m nobody special.. Nice symmetry. She was also 13 younger.
 

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Thank God we ve got these young guys to tell us how the world works. I personally had a plate for 13 years and I m nobody special.. Nice symmetry. She was also 13 younger.
There are exceptions to every rule. That doesn't mean the rule is not valid most of the time.
 

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Yep. You can't manage by the outliers. My point was that if it's happened to 2 guys on this one thread it obviously happens enough to be worth being nice to your Xes
 

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