"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Randomly told me she has a hot tub, etc. (there's more) good come back?

jnMissouri

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I've had a couple other girls who had hot tubs (albeit at their parents) who invited me over outright. This girl I've been flirting with on POF randomly told me at the end of a conversation she has a hot tub...Like BTW I have a hot tub. We were already set to meet up for drinks Saturday at a bar.

So my initial response to her hot tub comment was that my chiseled body would go good with that hot tub, but she has to promise to control herself. She sent an lol, then followed by a "I make no promises..." 7 minutes later.

This is where I often muck it up. By either being too eager/pushy or too aloof. So what's a good come back? Mind you she said she likes the fact that I took the lead in setting up the date, she likes it when a man leads. So maybe I should just invite myself over? By saying something like, would you prefer I bring champagne or wine?

Or stick with something like the below:

-I make a few promises (eluding to ****ing her good).
-You can at least wine and dine me first...
-I'm not a peace of meat, I'm a real person...
-Other ideas?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Never mind, no responses here so I told her to guess what my promise would be. She got excited and was like tell me tell me!

So I told her I'd whisper it in her ear while we're in the tub drinking champagne...
 

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dont overthink this bro. play it cool u got this in the bag. any chick who still shows interest after a "my chiseled body and that hot tub would look great together" comment is defintely DTF. lol. DONT oversell tho comes off kinda corny but you could get away with anything at this point since shes showing such high interest. also you havent met her yet so she could be a wierdo, autist, catfish etc.
 
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