“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Random women smiling at you

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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It happens. Not often that I would like, but it happens.

And I don’t think that they do it to everyone.
 

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Pulled up to a light the other day windows down, music playing, glanced right and a cute gal in her thirties was waving and smiling at me two lanes over. I looked in the opposite direction to see if it was meant for someone else, then looked back at her and she nodded her head “no” and pointed at me. I smiled and waved back, and blew her a kiss, which she copied. There was a male in the passenger seat around her age.

I do often get smiles and nods, even stares, specially when the suns out because the guns are too, but this was overt and from a woman 25 years my junior. Unfortunately there was no way to interact with her…

Enjoy your IOI’s, they’re rare.
 

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I get positive feedbacks when I interact with people but it's very unlikely that people I'm not interacting with smile or approach me.

I always get positive feedbacks from both men and women especially at the gym but no initiative from them.

I even have employees and clerks being extra helpful and nice but only when we interact or I start the conversation.

Guess I'm decent looking enough but not that much where people takes initiative.

Not complaining since most men I know report being ignored, mistreated and generally treated as numbers.
 

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Women smile at me, a lot more now that I'm older it seems. I think part of this is because I'm more open now and willing to make eye contact (not stare). I don't think it means anything necessarily, it's just people being friendly.
 

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Hi Cornbread,
Yes it happens quite regularly,like Zecko I find the older I get
the more frequently it happens....Sadly,I don't think it a reflection of any allure I might offer,rather amiable recognition,that I am just a harmless old Guy LOL.
 

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Random people. Men & women smile at me. or say ‘hi’. ‘Good morning’…

Welcome to America.
This is spot on.

I get the “how are you” from random strangers both men and women.

I answer authentically with transparency
• I’m tired
• I’m hungry
• I’m great
• I’m drunk
• I’m sore
Etc…
 

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Do they do this to everyone or am I the only one that experiences this often?
When I am walking around with my shirt off I get this and some of them look like they are about to break their neck with their head turning so quickly.

Funnily enough, after meeting my current girlfriend at a water park last year shirtless, she now hates it when I take my shirt off in public because I am "inviting female attention to myself". Go figure.
 

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When I am walking around with my shirt off I get this and some of them look like they are about to break their neck with their head turning so quickly.

Funnily enough, after meeting my current girlfriend at a water park last year shirtless, she now hates it when I take my shirt off in public because I am "inviting female attention to myself". Go figure.
Lol she knows :rofl:
 

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In the context of dating... smiling is almost certainly an IOI, and the type of IOI you get probably depends on where you are and the 'aura' you give off. Generally speaking, strong eye contact, smiling, compliments, and intentionally planting themselves around your personal space are strong IOIs that women rarely will do with random men.

The smiling thing could be a simple gesture that friendly and warm women (and men) do to spread "good vibes" regardless of interest levels...... However, I'd still take it as a good sign that that they'd do it with you since it probably means you have good energy, and if men are doing that too that's proof of concept.

In my case, I very rarely get instances of random women smiling at me (excluding when it's forced eg interacting with bank tellers or cashiers). This is probably because I don't look like a very pleasant fellow (which is correct) and wouldn't care about a smile or return one (also correct). Their IOIs take on different forms for me, and I think this is more evidence of how socially calibrated women are and how good they are at reading other people.
 
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the smile is strongest signal she can give a man that she wants him to approach wether he recognises it or not is another thing
 

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I’ve had received a few smiles/looks that triggered an automatic response of smiling back or mirroring whatever they accompany the smile with. Most recent one was a girl that said hi and smiled, my brain automatically said hi and I smiled, and one second later I was deep in thoughts how it happen in autopilot. Probably an evolutionary glitch/feature. Usually I have to voluntarily smile, and I think it’s better that way. I rather smile only to people that appear to have good energy.
 

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Few takes.

1.Women have a sixth sense for how people and especially how men feel. So whenever you feel great about yourself you'll be oozing this energy and women will pick up on it.

2. Sometimes a man needs to make (small or big ) adjustments ( let's focus in the small ones). I put back my nosering and it basically completed me somehow. It's really subtle but yet it seems like major difference in results. I got women staring at me mesmerized. Pulling suddenly get WAY easier. The thing is tho, that each man individually gotta figure out what does and what does not work for him.



In the context of dating... smiling is almost certainly an IOI, and the type of IOI you get probably depends on where you are and the 'aura' you give off. Generally speaking, strong eye contact, smiling, compliments, and intentionally planting themselves around your personal space are strong IOIs that women rarely will do with random men.

The smiling thing could be a simple gesture that friendly and warm women (and men) do to spread "good vibes" regardless of interest levels...... However, I'd still take it as a good sign that that they'd do it with you since it probably means you have good energy, and if men are doing that too that's proof of concept.

In my case, I very rarely get instances of random women smiling at me (excluding when it's forced eg interacting with bank tellers or cashiers). This is probably because I don't look like a very pleasant fellow (which is correct) and wouldn't care about a smile or return one (also correct). Their IOIs take on different forms for me, and I think this is more evidence of how socially calibrated women are and how good they are at reading other people.
This.

I also notice that the smile OP describes oftentimes is a knee-jerk reaction rather than a pre-planned action.

From the pov this thread is way way deeper than people think: if women smile at you then LIFE itself smiles at you! When Women say a man is creepy, Men might say he's just goofy or just a little odd.
 
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