"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Raising your voice to a woman.

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Don't always have to be yielding to her, get this straight. At some point or another this girl wants to be your wife in an LTR, now show her you have a backbone. The rest should take it's course from there.Look even if she leaves eventually she will come back. Especially if she's a good girl. Keep your bachelorhood and backbone when you go into things involving an LTR.

Friend of mine got in an LTR in 3 months time. She gave him the set up. Nice car. Decent housing. Only thing he owns is his bike on his father's insurance. Any day now this is going to be ugly she will eventually throw him out on the street. Man this guy is hardheaded.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you have always to be above the woman verbally and in action to keep her considering you upper than than her .
how to do that without going to jail , I don't have answer to this
 

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evan12 said:
you have always to be above the woman verbally and in action to keep her considering you upper than than her .
how to do that without going to jail , I don't have answer to this
Seniority my friend. Women love Seniority.
 

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I've had moments in LTRs where I've gotten lazy, and had a moment of beautiful clarity and thought: WTF am I doing? Becoming whipped... No. And basically a total shield comes up between me and the woman, she can't get through... Drives them crazy. For sure, they love being shown who's boss.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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wasn't he a known homo? maybe i am thinking of Rock Hudson, tho.
 

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goundra said:
wasn't he a known homo? maybe i am thinking of Rock Hudson, tho.
Cary Grant in his film's was a first rate gentleman. Good role model for DJ's. I also believe he had a couple of wives but that was his personal life.
 
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