You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Be a good example and someone they can look up to.RockAndRollRefugee said:To some of you that plan on having kids or already do...
Since you've left the matrix, how will you raise your sons not to be AFCs?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It's still important to teach them how to respect women. This site in no way, shape, or form preches to disrespect women. Do you want your son to grow up being one of those dads that has five kids and who gives abuse to every women he meets? (Your answer should be no.) People simply assume that when you arent "lippy lippy nice" that you are disrespecting women.BlakeW5 said:I'll tell them the truth. Too many sons get advice on how to treat/get women from their mothers. I think we all know how taking dating advice form women works out. Of course they (the mothers) tell their sons to treat women with respect, buy them things, and generally kiss their ass. Sadly, the dads (if they're even around) don't tell them the truth. Chances are the kid's dad didn't hook up with their mom by "respecting" them. It still kills me how many parents pound this "supplicate to chicks" BS into their sons heads
I never said to not respect women, quite the contrary. I said not to "respect" women, the quotes of course meaning respect as most see it (being lippy lippy nice). The whole reason for the existence of sites like this is due to the fact that most guys are taught the wrong ways to get women if they were even taught at all. Guys grow up and their mothers, the media (TV, movies), and girls tell them that the way to get women is to "respect" them. They're told to be sweet, romantic, buy flowers, etc, etc. The same guys then find out that crap doesn't work and then they either do a 180 and become jerks/a-holes, stay lonely, find an ideal balance between the two extremes, or find sites like this to help them.Axcell said:It's still important to teach them how to respect women. This site in no way, shape, or form preches to disrespect women. Do you want your son to grow up being one of those dads that has five kids and who gives abuse to every women he meets? (Your answer should be no.) People simply assume that when you arent "lippy lippy nice" that you are disrespecting women.