Raising Sons

[RockAndRollRefugee]

To some of you that plan on having kids or already do...

Since you've left the matrix, how will you raise your sons not to be AFCs?

 

[BlakeW5]

I'll tell them the truth. Too many sons get advice on how to treat/get women from their mothers. I think we all know how taking dating advice form women works out. Of course they (the mothers) tell their sons to treat women with respect, buy them things, and generally kiss their ass. Sadly, the dads (if they're even around) don't tell them the truth. Chances are the kid's dad didn't hook up with their mom by "respecting" them. It still kills me how many parents pound this "supplicate to chicks" BS into their sons heads

 

[Hooligan Harry]

I will encourage them to play sports. If they dont like sports I will encourage them to pursue hobbies they enjoy. They dont need to excel, just enjoy them.

Boxing classes at a young age will give them confidence.

 

[Evzone]

To some of you that plan on having kids or already do...

Since you've left the matrix, how will you raise your sons not to be AFCs?

Be a good example and someone they can look up to.

 

[Violent V]

Be ACTIVE in their lives. Be around. Its important for a young boy. Your sons will look at you in the way you ACT- around women, at work, during your hobbies. Theory is not enough.

Be their role model. And another thing. NEVER EVER CRITICISE HIM OR HER. Always keep it constructive and encouraging.

 

[Axcell]

I'll tell them the truth. Too many sons get advice on how to treat/get women from their mothers. I think we all know how taking dating advice form women works out. Of course they (the mothers) tell their sons to treat women with respect, buy them things, and generally kiss their ass. Sadly, the dads (if they're even around) don't tell them the truth. Chances are the kid's dad didn't hook up with their mom by "respecting" them. It still kills me how many parents pound this "supplicate to chicks" BS into their sons heads

It's still important to teach them how to respect women. This site in no way, shape, or form preches to disrespect women. Do you want your son to grow up being one of those dads that has five kids and who gives abuse to every women he meets? (Your answer should be no.) People simply assume that when you arent "lippy lippy nice" that you are disrespecting women.

You should teach your son to respect women, respect others, and most importantly, respect himself. If you son respects himself, has confidence in himself, and is very charismatic - he will be a natural. Be very outgoing with people you meet and encourage him to become social as well. Be encouraging, supportive, and a mentor so that when he does come to high school (the time when most young men start to become curious about these things), he knows that he has YOU to talk too.

And since when is it respective to buy gifts? There are other ways to show respect... and that is what I would teach MY son. That it is important to respect women, but how you respect them is what is fundamental in being successful with them. Flowering them with gifts, constantly putting yourself down for them, and ALWAYS going out of your way for them isn't it. A relationship between a man and a woman should go both ways, and as long as he knows all these things, he should be very well more than fine.

And last but not least, I'd tell him to do things that he enjoys and to always keep himself busy doing those things he enjoys... whatever it may be (sports, a hobby, etc). Part of being a DJ is not only to be successful with girls. Girls are only part of our lives, they aren't our lives! What makes a DJ a DJ is the fact that he has other things to do with his time, he's busy, he's always on the run, and the women chase after him... yet still can't have him. By telling him this simple statement, you automatically teach him TONS of principles which have been mentioned on this site.

1) You teach him to always be busy. Boredom is NEVER good. You would want your son to have a fulfilling life. What happens to guys who are busy? They are difficult to reach. And what's that famous saying? You always want what you cannot have. If he's always busy playing soccer and he has a life outside of "girls", he won't be so readily available to them, thus they would want him.
2) You teach him how to become the prize.
3) You teach him that there is more to life than girls.

That's just my 2 cents. Be an active listener, be proactive, be confident, be outgoing... and you'll notice that your son will do the same. Like they say, father like son. Don't be the kind of guy to teach his son to move on from woman to woman and disrespect them - that's by far even worse than rasing a son who is an average frustrated chump.

Axcell.

 

[BlakeW5]

It's still important to teach them how to respect women. This site in no way, shape, or form preches to disrespect women. Do you want your son to grow up being one of those dads that has five kids and who gives abuse to every women he meets? (Your answer should be no.) People simply assume that when you arent "lippy lippy nice" that you are disrespecting women.

I never said to not respect women, quite the contrary. I said not to "respect" women, the quotes of course meaning respect as most see it (being lippy lippy nice). The whole reason for the existence of sites like this is due to the fact that most guys are taught the wrong ways to get women if they were even taught at all. Guys grow up and their mothers, the media (TV, movies), and girls tell them that the way to get women is to "respect" them. They're told to be sweet, romantic, buy flowers, etc, etc. The same guys then find out that crap doesn't work and then they either do a 180 and become jerks/a-holes, stay lonely, find an ideal balance between the two extremes, or find sites like this to help them.

Nor did I advocate mistreating women, the exact polar opposite of a$$kissing.

We're making the same point, just using different words

 

[Night Owl]

It's hard work, but I have been working on my son for the past three years (he is now nineteen), but he has listened to everybody else too.

He has quite a few fails doing it their way, and now has asked his dad for advice. He can't get into his head the concept (the matrix at work) of letting girl chase him, blowing hot and cold, not being to nice and paying for everything. However, I had spotted a girl, which he hadn't even noticed at his work making a play for him, and told him to go after her (but make sure she does all the running) He is actually meeting her tonight, but only for a walk around the park with my dog.

Keep at your sons people, they will not listen at first, but will come around eventually.