This is my first time posting here. To start off - I stumbled upon the Don Juan bootcamp pdf some time ago, and have since read the whole thing. Not being one to believe the whole "lay guide" bs, I was surprised to find a lot of information which clearly identified several key problems I was having, and armed me the correct mindset to fix them.
At this point in the game, I feel as if i've mastered or at least commonly practice/possess numerous key DJ mindsets. I know that I should be number one, the "prince" as Pook put it whereas women should be working to have a shot at me. I've got the "****y & funny" mentality down. Eye contact and Kino are both things which i've been practicing a lot with, and have since made much progress in. I'm typically Alpha-maleish around my group of friends, as well as in general. Confidence, while being an issue to be constantly confronted for me - is not an issue in practice... I'm one whos willing to say just about anything to a girl, and walking up to a girl at a bar or a club.. although I feel that much improvement is still needed there. Rejection is not something which I am scared off, and I feel as if i possess the correct mindset with dealing with it - taking it as a learning experience..
Enough with the preface though - I do possess several key problems with which I am still batteling. Establishing the initial attraction when I first meet a chick has been something i've been improving - but maintaining it past several weeks remains to be a huge problem.
Case in point - There is this girl who I met a month or two ago, seen her once.. I came off with a good first impression, she seemed like a pretty chill girl with a very attractive attitude (amongst other things, obviously.) I next seen her a few weeks later... ran into her when I was with around friends.. she tagged along with us, went out to a few places. Her attraction to me seemed to be through the roof, I played it cool.. not giving her too much attention, but still responding to that which she was providing me. It was literally at the point where we were sitting in a resteraunt/lounge, and she makes a toast with me to "having good sex".. I was ready to bend her over the table right then and there and rail her.. but as circumstances turned out, that didn't happen... I ended up having to drop her off (as always seems to happen with me). I see her a few more times afterwords, attraction is still high but it seems as if there aren't any fitting opportunities or openings for me to do anything with her.
Again, I played it smooth, didn't call her too much/often... she typically called me.. She invited me over to a club/lounge... To make that story short, she dumped some guys she was sitting with as soon as I walked into the place, we danced/grinded a bit.. things were heated... attraction again was high.
We ended that night with meeting up with some friends after the club, and I dropped her off again, with nothing really happening between the both of us.
Again - afterwards, I played it cool and didn't push for too much (waited for her to call me, etc.) We were supposed to meet up on several occasions the following week, but that didn't work out due to a few reasons. Now, last night.. we decide to go to a strip club, so her, myself, and a few of my buddies (who she knows) go.. And again - nothing really happens between the both of us, even though I made attempts at kino, etc... I just didn't feel like I was presented with an opportunity to do anything with her. After the club, we were supposed to go out to eat at a dinner, but my other friends got tired - I went to drop them off, and as soon as I droped off the last guy she tells me that shes tired aswell, and wants to go home.. .even though she stated 15 minutes prior that she wanted to go to the diner..
Now, pardon me if I come across as sounding like a whiny ***** or what not - It is 6am in the morning and I'm not exactly at my sharpest at the moment..
But.. I just don't see it.. What the **** am I doing wrong? (well, my personal belief is that I'm not making strong enough moves which is resulting of her putting me on her freinds ladder) What do I need to alter or ammend to regain this girls interest, and keep me from getting dumped onto her friends ladder at this seemingly critical stage..?
At this point in the game, I feel as if i've mastered or at least commonly practice/possess numerous key DJ mindsets. I know that I should be number one, the "prince" as Pook put it whereas women should be working to have a shot at me. I've got the "****y & funny" mentality down. Eye contact and Kino are both things which i've been practicing a lot with, and have since made much progress in. I'm typically Alpha-maleish around my group of friends, as well as in general. Confidence, while being an issue to be constantly confronted for me - is not an issue in practice... I'm one whos willing to say just about anything to a girl, and walking up to a girl at a bar or a club.. although I feel that much improvement is still needed there. Rejection is not something which I am scared off, and I feel as if i possess the correct mindset with dealing with it - taking it as a learning experience..
Enough with the preface though - I do possess several key problems with which I am still batteling. Establishing the initial attraction when I first meet a chick has been something i've been improving - but maintaining it past several weeks remains to be a huge problem.
Case in point - There is this girl who I met a month or two ago, seen her once.. I came off with a good first impression, she seemed like a pretty chill girl with a very attractive attitude (amongst other things, obviously.) I next seen her a few weeks later... ran into her when I was with around friends.. she tagged along with us, went out to a few places. Her attraction to me seemed to be through the roof, I played it cool.. not giving her too much attention, but still responding to that which she was providing me. It was literally at the point where we were sitting in a resteraunt/lounge, and she makes a toast with me to "having good sex".. I was ready to bend her over the table right then and there and rail her.. but as circumstances turned out, that didn't happen... I ended up having to drop her off (as always seems to happen with me). I see her a few more times afterwords, attraction is still high but it seems as if there aren't any fitting opportunities or openings for me to do anything with her.
Again, I played it smooth, didn't call her too much/often... she typically called me.. She invited me over to a club/lounge... To make that story short, she dumped some guys she was sitting with as soon as I walked into the place, we danced/grinded a bit.. things were heated... attraction again was high.
We ended that night with meeting up with some friends after the club, and I dropped her off again, with nothing really happening between the both of us.
Again - afterwards, I played it cool and didn't push for too much (waited for her to call me, etc.) We were supposed to meet up on several occasions the following week, but that didn't work out due to a few reasons. Now, last night.. we decide to go to a strip club, so her, myself, and a few of my buddies (who she knows) go.. And again - nothing really happens between the both of us, even though I made attempts at kino, etc... I just didn't feel like I was presented with an opportunity to do anything with her. After the club, we were supposed to go out to eat at a dinner, but my other friends got tired - I went to drop them off, and as soon as I droped off the last guy she tells me that shes tired aswell, and wants to go home.. .even though she stated 15 minutes prior that she wanted to go to the diner..
Now, pardon me if I come across as sounding like a whiny ***** or what not - It is 6am in the morning and I'm not exactly at my sharpest at the moment..
But.. I just don't see it.. What the **** am I doing wrong? (well, my personal belief is that I'm not making strong enough moves which is resulting of her putting me on her freinds ladder) What do I need to alter or ammend to regain this girls interest, and keep me from getting dumped onto her friends ladder at this seemingly critical stage..?