"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hello all,
Im in school right now and I drink on the weekends and whatnot, but I feel like I should stop because of the stupid things that happen when you get wasted. Drunken phone calls, one night stands, and the like, were once things that I thought were requisite for school, but now I just feel like an idiot. Anytime I have done something I regret has been with the use of alcohol. I dont drink everyday or anything and I dont feel like Im flushing my life down the toilet, but I think I would better serve my time doing something constructive and save my money rather than be a drunken fool.

That being said, has anybody gone through this before, and what did you do to remain social, w/out drinking at parties and stuff? I would appreciate any insight you may be able to impart here.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I thought about quitting drinking for the same reasons as you. Problem is, If I didn't drink I would end up sitting around the house.
 
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I've never had problems with alcohol, but since I'm broke and not 21 yet, I haven't had a drink in a long time.

I've found no one really cares whether youre drinking or not,.
 
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Stopping drinking every now and then is good for me because it shows me I can control my drinking if I want to. The first couple of weeks are the hardest though, bloody drinking mates :D .
Cheers

ps. in terms of doing stupid things while drunk, maybe you should concentrate of controlling yourself when you drink?
 
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Well its when I go out and there is heavy binge drinking involved with my roommates, i tend to fall into it. Once in a while im able to have like 5 or 6 and just buzz around (the way i want it to be every time) but when theres drinking games and mixing beer and alcohol thats when I do stupid things. I can get chicks and thats not a problem at all but if I'm wasted the standards go right down and all I want to do is just bang...maybe moderation is what I need because social drinking I can see myself doing, because like I said I dont get trashed during the week or anything, but just watching what and how i drink may make all the difference.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ah, drunken phone calls. Although comic, at times, my phone is also not always my best friend on a night of drinking.

I think what you might need to do, as you were saying, is moderate your intake in social situations. Naturally, you can stay out of the "Extremely Wasted" zone and still have a lot of fun.

Plus: Less Alcohol = Less Money. Less Alcohol = Less Disaster. More Money = More Fun. Less Disaster = More Fun.
 
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