Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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StrivetoThrive

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Hello all,
Im in school right now and I drink on the weekends and whatnot, but I feel like I should stop because of the stupid things that happen when you get wasted. Drunken phone calls, one night stands, and the like, were once things that I thought were requisite for school, but now I just feel like an idiot. Anytime I have done something I regret has been with the use of alcohol. I dont drink everyday or anything and I dont feel like Im flushing my life down the toilet, but I think I would better serve my time doing something constructive and save my money rather than be a drunken fool.

That being said, has anybody gone through this before, and what did you do to remain social, w/out drinking at parties and stuff? I would appreciate any insight you may be able to impart here.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TyTe`EyEs

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I thought about quitting drinking for the same reasons as you. Problem is, If I didn't drink I would end up sitting around the house.
 

AverageFC

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I've never had problems with alcohol, but since I'm broke and not 21 yet, I haven't had a drink in a long time.

I've found no one really cares whether youre drinking or not,.
 

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Stopping drinking every now and then is good for me because it shows me I can control my drinking if I want to. The first couple of weeks are the hardest though, bloody drinking mates :D .
Cheers

ps. in terms of doing stupid things while drunk, maybe you should concentrate of controlling yourself when you drink?
 

StrivetoThrive

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Well its when I go out and there is heavy binge drinking involved with my roommates, i tend to fall into it. Once in a while im able to have like 5 or 6 and just buzz around (the way i want it to be every time) but when theres drinking games and mixing beer and alcohol thats when I do stupid things. I can get chicks and thats not a problem at all but if I'm wasted the standards go right down and all I want to do is just bang...maybe moderation is what I need because social drinking I can see myself doing, because like I said I dont get trashed during the week or anything, but just watching what and how i drink may make all the difference.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CableLight

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Ah, drunken phone calls. Although comic, at times, my phone is also not always my best friend on a night of drinking.

I think what you might need to do, as you were saying, is moderate your intake in social situations. Naturally, you can stay out of the "Extremely Wasted" zone and still have a lot of fun.

Plus: Less Alcohol = Less Money. Less Alcohol = Less Disaster. More Money = More Fun. Less Disaster = More Fun.
 
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