"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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StrivetoThrive

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Hello all,
Im in school right now and I drink on the weekends and whatnot, but I feel like I should stop because of the stupid things that happen when you get wasted. Drunken phone calls, one night stands, and the like, were once things that I thought were requisite for school, but now I just feel like an idiot. Anytime I have done something I regret has been with the use of alcohol. I dont drink everyday or anything and I dont feel like Im flushing my life down the toilet, but I think I would better serve my time doing something constructive and save my money rather than be a drunken fool.

That being said, has anybody gone through this before, and what did you do to remain social, w/out drinking at parties and stuff? I would appreciate any insight you may be able to impart here.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TyTe`EyEs

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I thought about quitting drinking for the same reasons as you. Problem is, If I didn't drink I would end up sitting around the house.
 

AverageFC

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I've never had problems with alcohol, but since I'm broke and not 21 yet, I haven't had a drink in a long time.

I've found no one really cares whether youre drinking or not,.
 

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Stopping drinking every now and then is good for me because it shows me I can control my drinking if I want to. The first couple of weeks are the hardest though, bloody drinking mates :D .
Cheers

ps. in terms of doing stupid things while drunk, maybe you should concentrate of controlling yourself when you drink?
 

StrivetoThrive

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Well its when I go out and there is heavy binge drinking involved with my roommates, i tend to fall into it. Once in a while im able to have like 5 or 6 and just buzz around (the way i want it to be every time) but when theres drinking games and mixing beer and alcohol thats when I do stupid things. I can get chicks and thats not a problem at all but if I'm wasted the standards go right down and all I want to do is just bang...maybe moderation is what I need because social drinking I can see myself doing, because like I said I dont get trashed during the week or anything, but just watching what and how i drink may make all the difference.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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CableLight

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Ah, drunken phone calls. Although comic, at times, my phone is also not always my best friend on a night of drinking.

I think what you might need to do, as you were saying, is moderate your intake in social situations. Naturally, you can stay out of the "Extremely Wasted" zone and still have a lot of fun.

Plus: Less Alcohol = Less Money. Less Alcohol = Less Disaster. More Money = More Fun. Less Disaster = More Fun.
 
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