"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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quit smoking, should i start drinking coffee?

STR8UP

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I guess I just don't get it, but why would someone want to even touch that nasty sh!t.

Maybe it isn't like that to a smoker, but to me it's VILE.

That's the only bad thing about Europe. Every damn place you go to you have to choke on second hand smoke.

To make matters worse I have had some lung problems in the past, and they were usually brought on by a couple of nights back to back in smoky clubs. I'm talking almost have to go to the hospital kind of problems.

I can understand smoking pot or any other kind of drug to get high, but cigarettes? Is it THAT good?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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joekerr31 said:
so im in the process of quiting smoking (man this is painful).

i've never been a coffee drinker but i am thinking of taking it up.

what do you coffee drinkers think about your addiction to coffee? do you wish you could stop, or do you enjoy it?
They both give you bad breath. Take up gum chewing.
 

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I'm in the same boat, attempt number 150-something. Cut the coffee out completely while you smoke, it has a way of making the withdrawls even worse. Also, check out Paul Mckenna's "Stop Smoking for Good" self hypnosis cd as well as "The Easy Way to Stop Smoking", I forget by who.
 

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STR8UP said:
I guess I just don't get it, but why would someone want to even touch that nasty sh!t.
I can understand smoking pot or any other kind of drug to get high, but cigarettes? Is it THAT good?
smokers dont smell the smoke. when ive quit for a day or two in the past, and then had a smoke, im like "oh my god this stuff stinks!"

but when you are smoking you don't smell.

as for whether its good. well, i LOVE smoking. its kind of like instant meditation. you get to forget about all your problems for 5 minutes while you drop out of the world and enjoy your smoke.

whereas if your a non smoker, you're dealing with life and your thoughts 24/7. you never get a break.

but that said, there are so many negatives to smoking that i'm determined to give it up. it saps your energy over the long run, you stink, it increases your apathy, it increases your chances of dying young, etc.

as unbelievable as this will sound (since smoking is dirty and stinks), to me having a smoke is like being kissed by a hot chic - not an easy thing to give up.
 

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It's relaxing and becomes just becomes a habit. It's that simple. If I'm outside, I'm smoking. Joekrr31 put it best.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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