"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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quit smoking, should i start drinking coffee?

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I guess I just don't get it, but why would someone want to even touch that nasty sh!t.

Maybe it isn't like that to a smoker, but to me it's VILE.

That's the only bad thing about Europe. Every damn place you go to you have to choke on second hand smoke.

To make matters worse I have had some lung problems in the past, and they were usually brought on by a couple of nights back to back in smoky clubs. I'm talking almost have to go to the hospital kind of problems.

I can understand smoking pot or any other kind of drug to get high, but cigarettes? Is it THAT good?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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joekerr31 said:
so im in the process of quiting smoking (man this is painful).

i've never been a coffee drinker but i am thinking of taking it up.

what do you coffee drinkers think about your addiction to coffee? do you wish you could stop, or do you enjoy it?
They both give you bad breath. Take up gum chewing.
 

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I'm in the same boat, attempt number 150-something. Cut the coffee out completely while you smoke, it has a way of making the withdrawls even worse. Also, check out Paul Mckenna's "Stop Smoking for Good" self hypnosis cd as well as "The Easy Way to Stop Smoking", I forget by who.
 

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STR8UP said:
I guess I just don't get it, but why would someone want to even touch that nasty sh!t.
I can understand smoking pot or any other kind of drug to get high, but cigarettes? Is it THAT good?
smokers dont smell the smoke. when ive quit for a day or two in the past, and then had a smoke, im like "oh my god this stuff stinks!"

but when you are smoking you don't smell.

as for whether its good. well, i LOVE smoking. its kind of like instant meditation. you get to forget about all your problems for 5 minutes while you drop out of the world and enjoy your smoke.

whereas if your a non smoker, you're dealing with life and your thoughts 24/7. you never get a break.

but that said, there are so many negatives to smoking that i'm determined to give it up. it saps your energy over the long run, you stink, it increases your apathy, it increases your chances of dying young, etc.

as unbelievable as this will sound (since smoking is dirty and stinks), to me having a smoke is like being kissed by a hot chic - not an easy thing to give up.
 

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It's relaxing and becomes just becomes a habit. It's that simple. If I'm outside, I'm smoking. Joekrr31 put it best.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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