"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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quit dreaming

oOh Nasty

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for those of you who can't seem to get up and take action towards your goals and ideals, here's a little tip.

quit dreaming and start doing.

i used to just sit around and dream about what i could be and how i could be, instead of taking action. i mean, don't get me wrong. dreaming is a good thing, because it's a good way of reminding yourself that there's always room for improvement no matter what. the bad thing is...not many people AT ALL actually do something about their dreams. everytime i see pictures of body builders, i tend to get jealous and tell myself that i, one day, will look just like that. the sad thing is...i post-pone that goal so much that i might as well just not start. there are lots of things that i've always wanted to do, but just never did because i spent too much time day-dreaming and giving myself confidence rather than actually improving myself.

so whenever you're in that situation...when you suddenly have the urge to try something new or you feel that small ounce of motivation flowing through you, start ASAP. don't wait until you're ready, do it NOW. don't sit there and daydream (too much). that'll get you nowhere.

so get up and do something RIGHT NOW, you lazy bastard.

~ j
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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On_the_Top

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You can either go out and fight for yours like a real man, or you can fight for yours for the first 4 rounds and sit on your ass in the 6th.
 

BrotherAP

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Alright, you convinced me. I'm going to go take a shower, get something nice on, and go find some girls. If I don't find any girls (because I probably wont, not in this town), at least I'll smell nice. Thanks for the inspiration.
 

Oxide

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Yep. im getting my clothes and going out driving.. who knows what the hell is going on at 10pm on a sunday night in a suburb..
 

blinkwatt

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this post is oh so true. ANYONE CAN DO WHAT THEY WANT ITS UP TO THEM TO DO IT.before i found some "game" in me i wouldnt have ever thought i could pull in the girls i go out with now,it was up to me to use my knowlegde and past expierences to use.ALL THIS IS ONLY GOOD IF YOU ACT.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This post reminds me of lyrics from an Aesop Rock song:

"Look, I've never had a dream in my life
Because a dream is what you wanna do but still haven't pursued
I knew what I wanted and did it 'til it was done
So I've been the dream I've wanted to be since day one"

Very true.
 
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