"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quiet versus Loquacious

612_Da_Playa

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For some reason I always thought that the best Don Juan was the one that didn't speak to the girl but rather played it coo. Um do you actually need to talk? (I"m sensing this question is too complex that it might be simple)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PrinceBeavis

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Well, if you wear a trenchcoat and hat, honk a horn, and play a mean harp solo, you should do alright with the ladies without ever talking.
 

Ace of Flames

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There's a difference between being quiet and being silent. Obviously, you do have to speak if you want to get anywhere. The main thing is, if you don't talk as much, your words have more weight. Its like, "Hey, that guy hardly says anything. I wonder why he's saying something now. It must be important."
 

The Sperminator

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From what I've seen the talkers are the ones who get the girls. For one shows confidence and shows that you are social but you have to be interesting and funny. If you talk a lot and are boring or annoying of course you won't get girls. If you are quiet girls most likely aren't going to find you interesting and probably won't try to talk to you unless you are really good looking.
 

War Against Betaism

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I've never seen anyone get laid just by the girl looking at the guy for 4 straight hours, even if they were great looking. In fact I've heard a story that when Brad Pitt first moved to LA, he was really bad at picking up chicks. So if Brad Pitt can't pick up chicks with his looks alone you do have to do more than just play it cool.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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