"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Quick tip for when you are paying for something

lonewolf17

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Generally when you go to pay for something the girl will (on a first date) say something along the lines of, "oh, don't worry, I can pay for myself!"

And usually you reassure her, "don't worry about it." And then pay.

But make yourself a little more memorable, do this:

When she says "oh, don't worry, I can pay for myself!" put your hand on her back (kino), turn her, and point somewhere behind - at a wall that has signs on it.

Say to her while pointing in that direction, "See that sign? See what it says? It says, '[insert name] does not have to pay!'"

While you are doing this use your other hand to give the cashier or whoever the money to pay for the both of you. She'll end up turning around with a smile, the date will have been paid for, and it'll be a great entrance or closing to a date.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ARrocket

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I don't recall many times a girl has said "don't worry I can pay for myself."

However, if that happened to me, I would say "cool, you can buy me dinner next week" or something like that.
 

frisco

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actually i think girls have bought me dinner more than i have bought them dinner or we just split the bill...
 

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itd be even more memorable if the girl DID pay for herself if she offers. she looks in her purse the next day and wonders what she spent that 20 on. and she is reminded of you. and if the date doesnt work out at least you didnt pay 20$
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Daddy The Pimp said:
It happened to me alot . NO NO DONT

But when im out with a girl , i like paying for her .

Maybe is against DJ RULES but cmon man , your going in a date and letting her pay for herself a fvcking drink ?? Be gentleman and spend 2$ for her . Fvck the rules .
True dat, whoever wrote that "never pay for a girl" rule was obviously broke as ****.

Don't be a cheap *******.
 

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I can say from experiance that not paying for a date can end in utter fvcking diasaster. Tried it once, won't be trying it again anytime soon.
 

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lonewolf17 said:
I can say from experiance that not paying for a date can end in utter fvcking diasaster. Tried it once, won't be trying it again anytime soon.
Care to elaborate?
 

ARrocket

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lonewolf17 said:
I can say from experiance that not paying for a date can end in utter fvcking diasaster. Tried it once, won't be trying it again anytime soon.
So how many dates do you think the man should pay? The first 2? 3?
 

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Just take her to cheap places. Somewhere along the way someone decided (probably a woman) that guys should pay for dates, and unfortunately now guys are stuck with this little rule. So pay for her, but take her somewhere so cheap that it doesn't make much of a difference.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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