"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Quick tip for when you are paying for something

lonewolf17

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Generally when you go to pay for something the girl will (on a first date) say something along the lines of, "oh, don't worry, I can pay for myself!"

And usually you reassure her, "don't worry about it." And then pay.

But make yourself a little more memorable, do this:

When she says "oh, don't worry, I can pay for myself!" put your hand on her back (kino), turn her, and point somewhere behind - at a wall that has signs on it.

Say to her while pointing in that direction, "See that sign? See what it says? It says, '[insert name] does not have to pay!'"

While you are doing this use your other hand to give the cashier or whoever the money to pay for the both of you. She'll end up turning around with a smile, the date will have been paid for, and it'll be a great entrance or closing to a date.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ARrocket

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I don't recall many times a girl has said "don't worry I can pay for myself."

However, if that happened to me, I would say "cool, you can buy me dinner next week" or something like that.
 

frisco

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actually i think girls have bought me dinner more than i have bought them dinner or we just split the bill...
 

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itd be even more memorable if the girl DID pay for herself if she offers. she looks in her purse the next day and wonders what she spent that 20 on. and she is reminded of you. and if the date doesnt work out at least you didnt pay 20$
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Daddy The Pimp said:
It happened to me alot . NO NO DONT

But when im out with a girl , i like paying for her .

Maybe is against DJ RULES but cmon man , your going in a date and letting her pay for herself a fvcking drink ?? Be gentleman and spend 2$ for her . Fvck the rules .
True dat, whoever wrote that "never pay for a girl" rule was obviously broke as ****.

Don't be a cheap *******.
 

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I can say from experiance that not paying for a date can end in utter fvcking diasaster. Tried it once, won't be trying it again anytime soon.
 

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lonewolf17 said:
I can say from experiance that not paying for a date can end in utter fvcking diasaster. Tried it once, won't be trying it again anytime soon.
Care to elaborate?
 

ARrocket

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lonewolf17 said:
I can say from experiance that not paying for a date can end in utter fvcking diasaster. Tried it once, won't be trying it again anytime soon.
So how many dates do you think the man should pay? The first 2? 3?
 

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Just take her to cheap places. Somewhere along the way someone decided (probably a woman) that guys should pay for dates, and unfortunately now guys are stuck with this little rule. So pay for her, but take her somewhere so cheap that it doesn't make much of a difference.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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