"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Quick Tip For Getting A Number

SinJester

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Here’s something simple I do that seems to work and increase the chances of you getting a number.

Most guys say something along the lines of “so uh can I get your number?”

This sets her up to easily say no and puts her in control.

Here’s what I do:

“Give me your number” and I hand her the phone.

Simple. Right? It’s great for two reasons. First it keeps you in control, you are leading and telling her what to do. Second it makes it a lot harder to reject you and if the phone is in her hand she is more likely to just do it. She doesn’t get time to think about it. Of course you should put it in context and everything else.

Hey it works for me, I don’t know who else does this but must guys just seem to ask. Of course the most important thing is a solid interaction to start with. There’s no point getting her number if she isn’t really interested and is going to flake. I’ll leave that bit up to you
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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rqnqbnpopo

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SinJester said:
Here’s something simple I do that seems to work and increase the chances of you getting a number.

Most guys say something along the lines of “so uh can I get your number?”

This sets her up to easily say no and puts her in control.

Here’s what I do:

“Give me your number” and I hand her the phone.

Simple. Right? It’s great for two reasons. First it keeps you in control, you are leading and telling her what to do. Second it makes it a lot harder to reject you and if the phone is in her hand she is more likely to just do it. She doesn’t get time to think about it. Of course you should put it in context and everything else.

Hey it works for me, I don’t know who else does this but must guys just seem to ask. Of course the most important thing is a solid interaction to start with. There’s no point getting her number if she isn’t really interested and is going to flake. I’ll leave that bit up to you
Works for me, but everyone is doing it now a days.. So you need to add your own twist, you know.. Flirty smile, eye contact and maybe a little lip bite.. Most importantly, just enough kino and finese is key..
 

betterthandead

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Wow, we have to resort to tricks to get someone's contact information nowadays. If the moment is right, I'm just straight up about it. Typically I ask for email address.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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You're correct on this. I've been doing the same thing handing the woman my phone to put her own info in and it's more effective than simply asking if you can have her #. Now I'm just trying to translate all these extra numbers into something more.
 
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