"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quick Tip For Getting A Number

SinJester

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Here’s something simple I do that seems to work and increase the chances of you getting a number.

Most guys say something along the lines of “so uh can I get your number?”

This sets her up to easily say no and puts her in control.

Here’s what I do:

“Give me your number” and I hand her the phone.

Simple. Right? It’s great for two reasons. First it keeps you in control, you are leading and telling her what to do. Second it makes it a lot harder to reject you and if the phone is in her hand she is more likely to just do it. She doesn’t get time to think about it. Of course you should put it in context and everything else.

Hey it works for me, I don’t know who else does this but must guys just seem to ask. Of course the most important thing is a solid interaction to start with. There’s no point getting her number if she isn’t really interested and is going to flake. I’ll leave that bit up to you
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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rqnqbnpopo

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SinJester said:
Here’s something simple I do that seems to work and increase the chances of you getting a number.

Most guys say something along the lines of “so uh can I get your number?”

This sets her up to easily say no and puts her in control.

Here’s what I do:

“Give me your number” and I hand her the phone.

Simple. Right? It’s great for two reasons. First it keeps you in control, you are leading and telling her what to do. Second it makes it a lot harder to reject you and if the phone is in her hand she is more likely to just do it. She doesn’t get time to think about it. Of course you should put it in context and everything else.

Hey it works for me, I don’t know who else does this but must guys just seem to ask. Of course the most important thing is a solid interaction to start with. There’s no point getting her number if she isn’t really interested and is going to flake. I’ll leave that bit up to you
Works for me, but everyone is doing it now a days.. So you need to add your own twist, you know.. Flirty smile, eye contact and maybe a little lip bite.. Most importantly, just enough kino and finese is key..
 

betterthandead

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Wow, we have to resort to tricks to get someone's contact information nowadays. If the moment is right, I'm just straight up about it. Typically I ask for email address.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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You're correct on this. I've been doing the same thing handing the woman my phone to put her own info in and it's more effective than simply asking if you can have her #. Now I'm just trying to translate all these extra numbers into something more.
 
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