"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Quick Thinking Has It's Advantages

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Studying theories has it's advantages but there's a lot to be said for being agile and thinking on your feet. Pe prepared to take advantage of impromptu opportunities and you'll be surprised at what you can get yourself into. :up:

British tourist talks his way into Hollywood role
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have a friend who's just like that, except that he use to be a con artist. Its amazing what a little smooth talking can get you.
 

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I was at the vid store last night, and when I was checking out, the clerk informed me that I had some late fees. I had no intention of trying to get out of paying them, but simply joked about how much money they make off me and my continuous late fees. Then I cracked a joke about one of the movies that was late, and said that it was now costing me $20 for that horrible movie (Into the Wild, horrible flick).

Next thing you know, she completely waived the $20 bucks or so without me suggesting it or asking for it to be removed.

And again, the other day, I was getting a coffee downtown, and thought I had a five dollar bill in my pocket. Turned out that I did not. So I hand the guy my debit card and say, "Gosh, I hate to use this for such a small purchase, but I thought I had a five on me. Sorry bro."

He says, "No problem dude. It's on me."

And I said, "Thanks man. But I don't even have any money for a tip."

He says, "Don't worry about it. Catch me next time."


That was just plain awesome. A smile and some chit chat can go a long way. Altogether, that is $25 that is still in my bank account. Take things as they come, and you may be surprised at the results.
 

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That is some good advice Mag. Reminds me of when an old boss/mentor one time told me, don't be afraid to ask stuff for free, its amazing what people will give you. Especially when dealing in a business to business aspect.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Magma said:
I was at the vid store last night, and when I was checking out, the clerk informed me that I had some late fees. I had no intention of trying to get out of paying them, but simply joked about how much money they make off me and my continuous late fees. Then I cracked a joke about one of the movies that was late, and said that it was now costing me $20 for that horrible movie (Into the Wild, horrible flick).

Next thing you know, she completely waived the $20 bucks or so without me suggesting it or asking for it to be removed.

And again, the other day, I was getting a coffee downtown, and thought I had a five dollar bill in my pocket. Turned out that I did not. So I hand the guy my debit card and say, "Gosh, I hate to use this for such a small purchase, but I thought I had a five on me. Sorry bro."

He says, "No problem dude. It's on me."

And I said, "Thanks man. But I don't even have any money for a tip."

He says, "Don't worry about it. Catch me next time."


That was just plain awesome. A smile and some chit chat can go a long way. Altogether, that is $25 that is still in my bank account. Take things as they come, and you may be surprised at the results.
That's the kind of stuff that I'm talking about. I use to take experiences like this for granted until I added up just how much you can get without much effort. Now I just have to find out where Gweneth is filming her next movie.
 

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I still do lateral thinking questions, puzzles and strategy questions to keep my mind sharp. The more you do the faster your brain reacts to the enviorment around you in terms of though as well. It's gotten me out of more then one jam.
 

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PR,

Where do you get the exercises? I've found those kind of things helpful but never really had a resource. I'm a bit of a nerd at times and like taking IQ tests just for the challenge of the questions cuz I don't know where else to get those types of questions to keep me sharp.
 

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You can either get them off the net via search or if you're old school, go to barnes and noble or similar. They have a section dedicated to puzzles.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Lateral thinking questions, mind bending puzzles, mensa puzzle books, strategy questions, etc etc.
 

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Mandiblard said:
Sounds like a videogame
Or prehaps a actual game...Where the players are.
 
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