quick question

[someadivce]

ok met this girl a year ago, we hung out alot almost for around 7-8months then we decided it was best to be friends and we didnt talk at all for 3months. So a month ago we started talking some again and she comes over atleast once a week and we hook up but she keeps saying that this shouldnt be happening because we are just friends and that is all she is looking for. I am always just like, well I'm glad thats all your looking for because friends is good with me. I wouldnt mind to have more though, but no big deal if we dont. Plus she has a cousin that she keeps on and on about me going out with I keep saying no that I'm not interested.... How should I play this whole situation to get her to want more than a friendship?????and not get stuck completely in the friend zone....

 

[Igetit!]

ok met this girl a year ago, we hung out alot almost for around 7-8months then we decided it was best to be friends and we didnt talk at all for 3months. So a month ago we started talking some again and she comes over atleast once a week and we hook up but she keeps saying that this shouldnt be happening because we are just friends and that is all she is looking for. I am always just like, well I'm glad thats all your looking for because friends is good with me. I wouldnt mind to have more though, but no big deal if we dont. Plus she has a cousin that she keeps on and on about me going out with I keep saying no that I'm not interested.... How should I play this whole situation to get her to want more than a friendship?????and not get stuck completely in the friend zone....

Uh.....could you be a little more specific? Like when you say that you two hung out for 7-8 months,what do you mean by this? What were you guys actually doing when you were "hanging out"? Another thing:You say that she comes over to your place once a week and you two "hook up". Define "hook up".

 

[someadivce]

When we hung out for the 7-8 months we never had a status but it wasnt a "friendship" only relationship we were only seeing each other and then one day she was like maybe we should just be friends and I was like yea you know what that is probably for the best, so we didnt talk for a few months and we ended up talking a few times and she has came over 5 or 6 times and it always ends up with some kind of sexual activity happening, but she always says I can't come back over because we just need to be friends and this doesnt need to happen but she comes anyway and I always say thats cool whatever you want to do....and she is always trying to hook me up with her cousin and I always say no I'm just not interested...weird situation. Thanks

 

[Apocalypse Now]

You're getting sex. What more do you want?

 

[someadivce]

well I would like to keep getting it and not screw it up..just wondering why she keeps throwing this friendship thing up and also the cousin crap...

 

[Maxtro]

So let me get this straight. You were friends and hung out a lot for 7-8 months. Both of you decided to just be friends. What prompted this decision?

You have no contact for 3 months.

You started talking again one month ago and now you are having sex.

How did you go from no contact to sex in the one month period of time?

Since you two are having sex you aren't in the friendzone.

What do you want from this girl?

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

Try rejecting her advances and see what happens. It's nice that she's comfortable with you, and good for you because you're getting laid. But try wrapping her mind around this: Next time she wants to hook up, politely decline and say, "No, we're just friends, remember?" If you want more from her, this could be a way to prompt it. Just a thought. Women can be so confusing. =)