"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jamal

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Quick question...Usuallly in HS my opener would be Hi or Hey watsup...can I go straight to a story for a normal conversation or do I need to say something before I tell it...especially when it is a hot chick you dont know.
What would you do???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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penkitten

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dear jamal,
you have no need for silly parlor tricks but only the need of confidence and courage to go up and speak to her.
your friend,
penkitten
 

CORVETTE06

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why are u gonna tell her a f-ing story. if you wanna tell stories go tell stories to children in nursery schoool.

just approach her and be confident like penkitten said
 

The Deacon

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I know this contradicts Mystery Method, but you can just talk about classes and sh*t. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. It's like that movie Hitch, "90% of what you're saying ain't coming out of your mouth." Go ahead, talk about classes and w/e. Talk about how your math teacher is a dork. Talk about that crappy assignment your teacher gave you. It's okay, really. The more experience you get, the less you have to think about what you're doing.
 
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