"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Quick Question Does Approaching A Woman Automatically Lower Your Value In Her Eyes?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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The only way to avoid such phenomenon is social circle contact when you can make your move without directly approaching the girl therefore playing in a fair field without any handicap.
Keep in mind also that we guys consider us winner after we bang the chick, they consider the deal closed when they have you put any effort and validate their ego.
A girl which leads you at the club untill you ask for her number or invite her to your place only to have her refure and leave alone,actually pumped and dumped you in chicks term.
So I believe cold approach is effective only when you're above the girl you approach or when she already likes you before you do it.
When its her to approach you means that she likes you really much, for girls in uncommon to break their ego barrier or social rules, at that point you have so much credit that you need to be a professional sucker to screw it.
The center of a woman dating is ego, sex drive is marginal..the exact opposite of us where ego plays a role but its the desire to bang which motivate us.
Also approaching girls was a sign of confidence 20 yrs ago when few guys went for it, now its just a stepping stone for the creep label if done uncorrectly.
Keep in mind that dozens and dozens of guys hit on fat/ugly chicks every night.