"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Quick Question Does Approaching A Woman Automatically Lower Your Value In Her Eyes?

dadmonson

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Or does it raise your value since it shows you have the confidence to approach her?

Also when women approach you does that lower their value in your eyes?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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pinkfl

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When a guy approaches me, even if he seems nervous I am impressed with his confidence to approach me. It makes me respect him from the get go as long as he doesn't come off as desperate or creepy.
 

Who Dares Win

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I believe yes, when you approach a woman you automatically show that you want her therefore she want you less, thats why I strongly believe that cold approachers are effective only when you are 1 or 2 level above her.

The only way to avoid such phenomenon is social circle contact when you can make your move without directly approaching the girl therefore playing in a fair field without any handicap.

Keep in mind also that we guys consider us winner after we bang the chick, they consider the deal closed when they have you put any effort and validate their ego.

A girl which leads you at the club untill you ask for her number or invite her to your place only to have her refure and leave alone,actually pumped and dumped you in chicks term.

So I believe cold approach is effective only when you're above the girl you approach or when she already likes you before you do it.

When its her to approach you means that she likes you really much, for girls in uncommon to break their ego barrier or social rules, at that point you have so much credit that you need to be a professional sucker to screw it.

The center of a woman dating is ego, sex drive is marginal..the exact opposite of us where ego plays a role but its the desire to bang which motivate us.

Also approaching girls was a sign of confidence 20 yrs ago when few guys went for it, now its just a stepping stone for the creep label if done uncorrectly.
Keep in mind that dozens and dozens of guys hit on fat/ugly chicks every night.
 
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