"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Quick question about sucking in...

diablo

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Just out of curiosity, how many of you suck your gut in? I know, it's a pretty stupid question, but I find myself wondering how often I do it without even noticing... For example, go to the mirror, and push your stomach out all the way. Pretty fat, eh? Now put it in it's place - the way you normally carry it. Then, put it like you'd have it at the beach. Notice any difference?

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've read that you SHOULD "suck in" your gut, especially when working your abs. The muscles you use to suck in you stomach are behind your abdominal wall and need working out as well to become firm. If these mucsles don't get worked like your abs then you might end up having a six pack that "sticks out".
 

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I make it a point not to, especially at the beach. It seems like such a superficial thing to do whenever I see people do it.
 

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the joys of being skinny

i shove my stomach out to show my abs at their best :D

that must be a good thing right?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by chim_chim
I know someone that got a hernia doing that. :)
doing what exactly?

you can get a hernia by sneezing
 

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i have abs that stick out. its kinda cool because i actually have muscles there instead of little skinny guys that are happy because they have a flat six pack. ha. well you can do vaccuums that are supposed to pull your abs back in by strengthening your inner ab muscles. i havent been dong them consistantly so im not really sure abou thtme yet. my only problem is that i think if my abs didnt stick out as much it would make my chest look bigger
 

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I suck it in all the time, I have the under the shirt suck, and then the noshirt suck.

Except if I've just eaten a meal, in which case I often forget.

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Originally posted by [T]he ishop
Just out of curiosity, how many of you suck your gut in? I know, it's a pretty stupid question, but I find myself wondering how often I do it without even noticing... For example, go to the mirror, and push your stomach out all the way. Pretty fat, eh? Now put it in it's place - the way you normally carry it. Then, put it like you'd have it at the beach. Notice any difference?

Just a random useless thread - feel free to leave any comments or death threats as needed.


Lol I do it all the time. Well except when im at home. I do the same exact thing in the mirror too. It just makes me feel a bit more confident.
 
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